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It doesn’t always have to be the whole hand! Anal fingering is a sensual way to pamper and stimulate your partner. However, before you dive in, some preparation is essential, as scratchy fingers, long nails, and poor hygiene can be real mood killers. Never tried it before? Don’t worry, with our seven tips and tricks for anal fingering, you’ll be well-prepared to give him an incredible amount of pleasure.
1. Nail care – a must before the fun
The first step for safe anal fingering without injuries is short, trimmed nails. If your nails are too long, you can damage the sensitive intestinal lining when penetrating or moving. Grab a nail clipper and shorten your nails as much as possible.
To avoid sharp edges, follow up with a nail file. This might feel unusual for you, but your partner will thank you for it.
2. Use gloves for safer anal fingering
Not just for fisting, but also for anal fingering, gloves are a smart choice. They prevent germs from your fingers from being transferred to him and further reduce the risk of injury.
By the way, a black glove can look incredibly sexy if you lube it up and approach him with a smile.
When choosing gloves, remember that some men have a latex allergy. In such cases, opt for nitrile gloves. They are slightly less stretchy but work just as well for anal fingering.
3. Anal cleaning for hygienic fun
There’s no guarantee of sterility during sex, and anal fingering can sometimes get messy. If you can’t handle that, you might need to reconsider your preferences. However, there are ways to prevent avoidable mishaps. This starts with thorough anal hygiene on his part. If you’re fingering yourself, you have it literally in your own hands.
A proper anal shower is the basic requirement for enjoyable fun. Pro tip: Take a shower together. Anticipation builds as you soap him up before pampering him in bed.
A simple anal douche allows the receiving partner to prepare for your finger skills. It ensures that the rectum is free of residue, so nothing disrupts the penetration and play.
4. Relaxation before penetration
Before pampering him with your fingers, a massage of his anus, perineum, and maybe even his penis is a good idea. Some men tense up when fingers approach. If you notice this, give him time and make sure he’s just as eager as you are. If he’s unintentionally tense, a relaxation spray can help. It ensures more relaxation and helps you overcome the biggest hurdle.
Remember never to enter without lube. It shouldn’t just be slippery—it should glide smoothly. Don’t skimp on it, as anal fingering is much more enjoyable for both of you when his anus and rectum are thoroughly lubricated.
If you’re not using toys, opt for silicone-based lube. It’s slippery and lasts longer than water-based options. If toys are involved, water-based lube is better. You’ll need to reapply it occasionally to keep things smooth.
5. One, two, or three fingers: take your time and enjoy
Start slowly and work your way up. Begin with one finger to gently stretch his opening. Circular movements around his anus help him relax and open up to you.
Tip: A comfortable position is essential. He can lie on his stomach, back, or side, or kneel before you. Standing is often uncomfortable for many men and quickly tires the person doing the fingering.
Advance gradually when fingering. Once you’ve inserted one finger and he’s comfortable, you can try adding a second or third. Even the fourth and fifth fingers can join in, but by then, you’re essentially transitioning to fisting.
6. How to move your fingers correctly
You’re in! Now what? Give him time to feel how your fingers move inside him. Close your eyes and enjoy the moment when his sphincter wraps around your fingers, bringing you closer to him.
Anal fingering isn’t about thrusting your fingers hard or quickly in and out. Gentle, smooth movements are often more enjoyable for men. Circle your fingers, massage the rectal walls, and pay attention to his reactions.
About two to three inches inside, you’ll find his prostate. The P-spot is a hotspot that can lead to mind-blowing orgasms. While you’re there, take the opportunity to massage his prostate.
Don’t worry—you’ll find it! Rotate your fingers so they point towards his belly. If you feel a walnut-sized bump and he starts moaning deeply, you’ve found the spot.
7. Don’t focus only on anal fingering
How you massage the prostate depends on both you and his preferences. Gentle circular motions with your fingertips or a more firm milking action between two fingers—preferences vary. What’s always a hit, though, is combining anal fingering with other touches. There’s so much more to explore on his body.
Combine anal fingering with a perineum massage since you have one hand free. Alternatively, take hold of his penis and stroke it while your fingers explore his anus. Mix various stimulation techniques to make the experience exciting and varied for him. Of course, he can also pleasure himself while your fingers work their magic.
Conclusion: Anal fingering requires a bit of preparation
Simply dropping your pants and diving in isn’t enough. With a bit of preparation, it’s much better. Hygiene is essential, as is consent! If he’s not into it or isn’t relaxed enough, consider giving him a blowjob or trying something else. Ultimately, trust is needed to open up in this way.
By the way, even during masturbation, a finger in the butt can be incredibly hot. Give it a try—you’ll not only learn more about the male anatomy but also have a lot of fun during solo play.
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