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For many gays, anal sex is one of the best ways to get really close to their partner. To make sure the fun is not a letdown, proper anal sex preparation is of great importance. Many men think that “desire” and “a tube of lubricant” are enough and that, in theory, every man is receptive to anal sex. That’s not true! To make sex truly pleasurable, you need more than just a lubricant. We’ll tell you how to prepare for anal sex in the best possible way.
Deal with the topic of defecation
“Shit happens!” During anal sex, you may really be confronted with faeces. This is especially likely to happen if you have spontaneous anal sex. You meet a cute guy at the bar, you’re hot for each other and then you want to have sex quickly in the back room. If you haven’t been to the bathroom yet, it’s possible that there is already stool in your rectum.
But don’t think of your intestines as a battlefield of excrement. Digestion works in a fairly regulated way. What you excrete at the end makes its way from the mouth to the bowl. If you have already been to the toilet on the day of your big luck, the subsequent bowel movement is probably somewhere in your rectum. The probability that the active part is now “dirty” is quite low. Except for small remnants, which can simply always be present without sufficient cleaning.
Since you should never have anal sex without a condom anyway, this is no reason for drama. You use the body’s “output” as “input”. It is only normal that there may sometimes be “stains”. The more normal you are with it, the looser the sex will be.
By the way: Your partner’s penis and your bowel movements will certainly not put on a show of strength “in you”. He won’t “adjust your chair” either, at most before a date in a restaurant. You only have to worry about uncontrolled discharges if you have already had diarrhea. Since pathogens are on the agenda anyway, you should avoid anal sex in this case.
Anal Sex Preparation: Hygiene is essential
Being open about the topic of defecation helps to reduce inhibitions and fears. However, it does not replace the necessity for thorough anal hygiene. You can’t control what happens inside your ass. But you are responsible for keeping your entrance clean and creating an inviting experience for him.
It’s just a shame if you’ve just danced the night away and then want to pick up that hot guy from the bar. You should take the time for a quick trip to the bathroom. It’s best to always have a pack of wet wipes in your pocket so you can wipe sweat and other things out of the groove. Unpleasant odors can be removed and you will feel cleaner yourself. If you take him home with you, you can also invite him to take a shower with you. You can soap each other up and experience a wet and happy foreplay.
Tip: If you have more time, an anal shower is really handy. This little tool helps you to rinse any remaining particles of faeces out of the rectum. The psychological effect is particularly great! Many men feel much better prepared when they have had an anal shower.
If you have time, enjoy a thorough anal workout.
Spontaneous sex is hot, but often you have enough time to prepare for anal sex. If you have a date with a guy over the weekend, consider whether anal training would be useful. Of course, it depends on how much experience you have. If you have already had anal sex, you can usually skip this step. If you have never been taken, it is quite helpful.
The training consists of preparing your anus with anal plugs to the size of a normal penis. You start small and work your way up slowly. Don’t panic – there are plugs that are significantly larger than a normal penis. Don’t be put off by the sight of them, but choose a set that starts out really harmless and allows you to stretch bit by bit.
Tip: Wear the plug in the appropriate level in your everyday life to slowly get used to the stretching. When you no longer have any problems with it, take the next larger toy. You don’t have to worry that your anus will be stretched out when you pull the plug out again. The rosette is not only extremely stretchy, it also contracts again immediately. You will notice this after defecating. Nevertheless, it is easier to relax during sex if you are fundamentally prepared for the stretching.
Prepare the bed for the adventure
Not only you, but also the bed needs the right preparation for uninhibited anal sex. We have already talked about defecation and will do so again here. The probability that the bed will be covered with feces is extremely low. Spontaneous diarrhea can happen in rare cases, but even then there is a good chance that you will make it to the toilet in time.
On the other hand, the lubricant, of which you should use a good amount, leaves a lot more stains. Water-based lubes are no problem – silicone or oil-based lubricants can cause more stubborn stains. You can get them out of the sheets in the washing machine, but the mattress will need a special cleaning. To avoid this, we recommend a waterproof or wipe-clean bed sheet that is gentle on the mattress. This way, you can mess around with lube to your heart’s content without worrying about buying a new bed.
Anal Sex Preparation: The right position saves you from the orthopedist
Anal sex = doggy style! This assumption is probably as old as the invention of anal sex itself. However, that doesn’t make it any more true. There is a huge range of positions in which you can let your partner penetrate you (or vice versa).
Before you start experimenting, you should take a look at your physical constitution. If you suffer from back pain, doing acrobatic stunts in the toilet of a bar is not necessarily the best idea. There are also more comfortable options, such as the classic missionary position.
Don’t let yourself be guided by books or recommendations, but by your feelings. For beginners, the cozy spoon position can also be a wonderful position that is easy on the back.
Conclusion: anal sex preparation makes the adventure more relaxed
We all dream of spontaneous sex that comes out of the blue. But it’s a bit more relaxed with the right preparation. This is also possible if you don’t know whether you’re going to have sex or not.
Do you like to pick someone up while partying and your next club night is coming up? Then pack condoms and wet wipes in your bag, take a thorough shower in the morning and prepare for any eventuality.
You’ll find that you’re much more relaxed and won’t have to chicken out for fear of poor hygiene when it comes to the “showdown”. There’s usually a place where you can quickly freshen up with wet wipes.
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