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There are so many stories about fisting, this special type of anal sex. Many fisting myths stem from ignorance, some have arisen due to aversion, and others may be evidence of a hidden desire to try fisting yourself. In this article, we dispel the 7 most common fisting myths.
1. Fisting stretches the anus so much that a penis can satisfy it more
The fisting myth that your anus or sphincter muscle is stretched so far during fisting that it can no longer contract properly is simply false. The muscle is extremely flexible and always returns to its normal state. What fisting or playing with large dildos actually does is make it easier to overcome the sphincter muscle during fisting. However, this does not mean that it is permanently “looser,” but only that it becomes less difficult to overcome with regular fisting. If the sphincter muscle were to “wear out” through regular fisting, all passive fist friends would be incontinent, which is not the case. Only excessive or incorrect fisting can cause injury to the sphincter muscle.
The myth of the “worn out” or too loose hole is sexist and was originally conceived to control female sexuality and shame women. At some point, it found its way into fisting, has persisted ever since, and leads to the erroneous assumption of a “worn out” anus and a sphincter muscle that no longer functions.
2. Men who fist engage exclusively in fisting during sex
Admittedly, fisting with the hand or a FF dildo is a favorite form of sex for many men. But that doesn’t automatically mean that they don’t enjoy other practices as well. You only have to watch the right porn or attend sex parties to see that. There, you usually won’t see a single participant who doesn’t also enjoy being pleasured anally by a delicious cock.
Incidentally, the time-consuming preparation of a fisting session is one reason why even passionate fans of fisting also practice other types of sex. Even for them, it’s too much effort to spend hours setting up the sling or other sex furniture, mixing the right fisting lubricant, or deep cleaning their intestines with enemas. Of course, there are fist bottoms who are keen to give their anus a certain visual aesthetic (in the fist community, sloppy holes are very erotic to some tops) by only letting themselves be fisted. However, they are the exception rather than the rule.
3. Men who like fisting are also into kink, BDSM, and the like.
This myth is not true, because in fact, men with a penchant for fisting are often softies who show little interest in BDSM, leather or rubber fetishes, or similar things. For them, intimate, tender sex, erotic dates, or simply making out are just as interesting as a fist in their ass. It would therefore be wrong to pigeonhole fist fans into a category where they don’t (or at least not exclusively) belong.
4. Only a big dick can satisfy a fist fan
This myth also belongs in the world of fantasy. If you’ve been reading carefully, you already know that your anus does not remain permanently stretched and returns to its normal size. But what’s more important is that your fist (for example, in a duckbill shape) isn’t much bigger than your erect penis. Many people even satisfy themselves, not just with one finger, but with two or three fingers at the same time, and don’t see it as a particularly risky game. But when the term “fisting” is mentioned, it immediately has a threatening connotation, simply because of how extreme the word sounds.
As with classic fucking, the satisfaction of fisting does not come from the size of the “toy,” but from the right chemistry and submission, dominance, power, devotion, trust, control, tenderness, and affection. These things make great sex, not a hand or a big dick. So size is less important than people think. Without the right chemistry between the participants, all sex is terrible, even if you have a huge dick or a powerful fist.
5. Men who like fisting also like drugs, parties, and groups
This statement, which is one of the fisting myths, is actually partly true. Fisting can rightly be described as an “adventurous” form of play, and if someone is willing to embark on an adventure, it is at least likely that they will also be willing to try other things. According to those who engage in it, intoxicating substances such as poppers can make a fisting session more intense.
Intoxicants do indeed go hand in hand with the fisting scene. Fisting emerged when the American public was flooded with synthetic drugs in the early 1970s. Since then, they have become an integral part of the scene. However, there are also many fisting fans who prefer to stay away from such aids and prefer monogamous relationships and quiet nights.
6. Fisting is self-destructive and the result of abuse or trauma
A common misconception is that men who practice fisting need therapy, not sex parties. Unfortunately, many people believe that kinks and fetishes result from trauma. But this is wrong, because they simply stem from one’s own desires and fantasies. If someone has a kink, it is understood as an abnormal bastardization of the originally tender idea of making love. Of course, this is also not true.
Yes, incorrect fisting can lead to injuries and carries risks. Some people cite this as proof that fisting is self-destructive behavior. A glance at the wide field of sports refutes this view. In soccer, wrestling, or boxing, you can injure yourself just as badly or even worse. Bodybuilders and powerlifters do things to their bodies that you shouldn’t really expect them to do (what body is designed to lift 500 kg?).
Nevertheless, professional athletes who push their bodies to the limits of human performance (and far beyond with steroids) are not considered self-destructive individuals. We humans do things that are unsafe all the time, everywhere. We push ourselves to our limits and beyond. Some people push themselves to their limits by climbing or creating art, others by getting fucked with a fist.
7. Once you acquire a taste for fisting, you won’t want any other kind of sex
This one of our fisting myths is nonsense. Of course, men are curious and will try fisting at some point. But that doesn’t mean they’ll become so addicted to a fist session that nothing else will appeal to them anymore. Tastes change, even when it comes to sex. You might find blowjobs exciting for a while, then you meet someone who shows you how much fun role play can be, and eventually you end up in a sling for the first (and maybe last) time and let yourself be fisted.
Sexual interests and preferences also evolve. That’s perfectly natural. As stimulating as fisting may be, it has no proven addictive potential that could prevent you from enjoying other types of sex. And as already mentioned, there are hardly any fist fans who don’t have other preferences besides deep fist fucking and who don’t live out those preferences.
Conclusion: Fisting myths aside, when done right, fisting is a hot experience.
Now you know the most important fisting myths and can decide for yourself which ones you believe and which ones you don’t. Some myths are more or less true, but that’s not a bad thing. Others belong in the realm of prejudice and fantasy. It’s important that you don’t let such myths influence you too much and decide for yourself whether you want to try fisting or not.
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