Do you like to feel ropes on your skin? The way they slowly press into your flesh, sometimes taking your breath away and just holding you tight– no escape?
Then self-bondage is probably something for you; but you should master the craft!
Want to really give up control for once,„hang on the ropes“and intensely feel the satisfaction of helplessness?
Finally live out your sexual fantasies
There are a few reasons why bondage is practiced passionately by so many people. And of course the arousal plays an important role – but also the many side effects on the psyche are not to be underestimated and provide for goose bumps, tingling and co. If you don’t want to miss out on the BDSM technique, but are currently lacking the right play partner, self-bondage could be a hot addition to your solo play.
What is Selfbondage?
When it comes to solo play, “beginners” only think about jerking off. But in the sessions alone with yourself, much more is possible. Yes, dildos to ride can be hot; and also masturbators are nice to have, but apart from that you can with Selfbondage discover an exciting, new practice for you and add excitement to your sessions. Here you have the opportunity to explore something completely new at your own pace, or to take what you have already experienced from BDSM sessions with partners in solo play to the erotic extreme. Your partner hasn’t pulled your ropes tight enough? Then just do it yourself!
Selfbondage is, as the name suggests, about self-bondage. What at first might remind you of magicians has little to do with that. Nevertheless, it offers you a kind of „magic“. Self-restraintcan fulfil many aspects, depending on what you are in the mood for:
- It can be an intimate experience for yourself
- You can exert control over yourself in a very special way
- You can let yourself fall, be carried by the ropes
- Of course it is also a way to live out sexual fantasies – alone.
Unlike traditional BDSM bondage, in self-bondage you take on both roles: dominant and submissive. This contradiction is exactly what makes the BDSM technique of solo play so horny.
Selfbondage and BDSM – explore and discover yourself in a new way
Selfbondage definitely belongs to the BDSM techniques. Unlike many other elements, you can do bondage alone and are not dependent on a partner. You can still, as with BDSM, explore deeply (both physically and mentally) and discover yourself – including your preferences. For many, BDSM is more than just normal sex: both gays and straights see it as an intense, emotional and physical experience with many effects. Traditional sex simply can’t keep up. What about you? Have you already tried different BDSM tools and techniques?
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Selfbondage Tutorial – how to integrate bondage into solo play?
If you want to go beyond normal wanking and add a deep element to your selfsex sessions, you can use BDSM bondage techniques to take your satisfaction to another level. We can’t give you complete instructions on all bondage techniques here, that would go beyond the scope. But we will show you what is important for the first sessions and which basics are important for your captivating, physical and emotional satisfaction.
How to Selfbondage – a little selfbondage guide
There are many bondage ideas, BDSM ideas and techniques. In self-bondage you can basically choose betweentwo variations of bondage:
- With soft self-bondage, you tie yourself up in such a way that you can easily and effortlessly free yourself at any time (for example, if the postman rings and wants to join in). It is, to a certain extent, the „safe“ technique and especially for the beginning you have a special security in what you are doing.
- Strict self-bondage, on the other hand, is a method in which you cannot free yourself from your own restraints. You are to a certain extent at the mercy of your self-imposed restraints and this can be the hot effect. To free yourself, there is a release, which is for example a special lock that only opens again after a predefined time.
Selfbondage Equipment – Restraints, Sluts & Releases for your Solo Plays
If you want to create hot, fulfilling and above all satisfying solo sessions with BDSM, you will of course need some equipment. Some BDSM articles are useful:
- Ropes and bondage tape – they are probably the best-known equipment for bondage and play an even more important role in self-tie. With ropes you can create bindings and knots and tie yourself up for all you’re worth. You have the choice between cotton, hemp or jute ropes. At Tom Rocket’s we have the right rope for every kind of game – durable and for every kind of bondage game.
- Handcuffs – if you only think of the classic plush things, you don’t know real bondage equipment. Leather or metal handcuffs are especially good for bondage.
- Blindfolds – because of course you can also blindfold yourself during your solo sessions. Keep in mind, however, that you won’t be able to tie up well or untie opposite knots.
- Spreader bars – known as a BDSM accessory for spreading the legs, they can also come into play during erotic self-bondage.
- Safety scissors – they can be your contingency plan for cutting through restraints or tapes in an emergency.
- Furniture – your bed alone can be a great aid to bondage – the four bedposts provide everything you need to enjoy a classic spread in bed. But there is more equipment for your playroom.
- Your release – if you want to practice self-bondage safely, you always need a safeguard to release yourself from your bonds. What sounds poetic here is actually very simple, but important. More about this in the next section!
Your release – the safeguard as a necessary bondage accessory for safe solo plays
When you do self-bondage, you should always have some kind of safeguard up your sleeve, otherwise the bondage games can become dangerous. We distinguish between the normal release and the emergency release.
Just when you are in the flow and quite aroused, unexpected things can happen – maybe it will cut off your blood after all? Or maybe the fire alarm goes off in the house?With your emergency release you can free yourself from the bondage. It usually consists of some kind of task or a hand. For example, you can position a bucket of water with scissors or a key in it. A rope is attached to it, which you pull on in an emergency to get to the key or the scissors.
A normal release is a mechanism that is integrated into your bondage toy. There are, among other things, slings whose closing mechanism is frozen with water in the freezer. This way you have to endure your bondage until the ice is frozen.
Self-bondage tutorial: How can I tie myself up?
Your bondage can be simple or complex – just how you want it for your exciting solo play. You can start with simple wrist restraints and later develop complex body bindings. The important thing is to take it slow. Bondage can have an insane effect and you quickly want more. But especially when you’re letting off steam on your own, you should stay „reasonable“. Learn one BDSM bondage technique after the other and slowly approach the big bondages to avoid injuries and co.
Selfbondage: instructions & more
You can use various self-bondage ideas. Especially simple and well-known is the spreader bondage on the bed. All you need is a pair of restraints and your BDSM-friendly bed. First you tie your feet, then your hands to the bedposts – remember your release lock and your emergency release for the last hand. And for a little more tingling during your session: You can add to the spread in bed with a spreader bar – an anal plug in your back entrance feels very satisfying (… or filling out, just as you like).
Another variation is the bondage to a chair: With the ankles tied tightly to the chair legs, knees spread by a spreader bar and the hands crossed behind the back, you can feel your self-bondage while sitting. Additional ropes around your belly and upper body constrict you even more.
Also in standing position there are some positions you can use in self-bondage. However, you need extra equipment for this, such as hooks in the ceiling.
Sometimes soft can also be hard – Self-bondage tips for intense orgasms
Tying yourself up can take your orgasm experience to the next level. Why? Playing with your own freedom, limits through the restraints and arousal can be quite nice. Especially when you add toys to the bondage. Some sex toys don’t need to be used permanently – anal plugs, for example, can be inserted before the bondage and left in the anus for the entire time. Anal chains or cock rings can also add to your bondage experience.
You can easily get hard results from a soft self-bondage session (and yes, we mean your cock too!). Because during the soft bondage you are not completely constricted – one hand remains free. This has the advantage that you can play around with yourself as much as you want. Wanking, anal or Prostate stimulation – anything you want, you can bring in the Soft Selfbondage. A particularly good addition can also be electroplays.
These are the taboos you shouldn’t break – Dont’s when self-bondage
Of course you are allowed to add to your solo play with self-bondage according to your fantasies, you can ravish yourself from front to back, tie yourself up from top to bottom, as it makes you horny. Nevertheless, there are some things you should leave out in self-BDSM and only include in bondage with a partner:
- Fire
- Breathing
- Drugs
- Choking & Co.
- Exaggerate
How to Self-Bondage: Put on some restraints and blow your fantasies
Each of us has different fantasies. Bondage is a very popular part of BDSM and starts with small handcuffs. With self-bondage you can turn your dreams into reality and don’t have to pay attention to anyone but yourself. It doesn’t matter if you like the feeling of being tied up, if your orgasm is especially intense when you are at your own mercy, or if you simply feel a special kind of satisfaction from being tied up – an expedition can be worthwhile for you.
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