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BDSM in the Gay Scene

BDSM is a significant topic in the gay scene. Many gay subs and tops enjoy living out their passion with others. Often, questions arise that your friends or usual contacts can’t answer. We aim to fill this gap and help you find answers to questions you might not feel comfortable asking everyone. Especially for beginners, exploring BDSM desires can be challenging. You might be unsure about what you want and how far you can go.

Popular BDSM Roles and Fetish Dating

Whether it’s questions about the most well-known BDSM roles, finding a kink date, or understanding objectification – we cover it all. Did you know what tunnel games are? Are you aware of all the red flags when looking for a Dom or Sub? Do you master the common bondage knots effortlessly, or do you end up tying your fingers instead? Here, you’ll find answers to these questions and more.

The Tom Rocket´s Community

Tom Rockets isn’t just an online shop; it’s an open, gay community that aims to guide you through the gay and BDSM scenes. Whether you’re a beginner or an experienced Dom or Sub, our community offers tips and tricks to enhance your sex life. You’ll discover new techniques and insights you hadn’t known before.

Regular Updates and Trends

Our experienced gay authors regularly provide you with updates, the latest trends, and hot tips to elevate your sex life. Dive into sinful adventures, discover new trends, and learn how to stand up to your Dom or properly submit your Sub. Learning never stops, and we see ourselves as knowledge providers who aim to broaden your sexual horizons.

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If you’re looking for uncensored information with real value, you’re in the right place. Learn everything you need to become an even better lover. We offer not just theoretical knowledge but also practical advice and experiences to make your BDSM encounters more intense and satisfying.

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Whether you’re a curious beginner or an experienced BDSM enthusiast, you’ll find the resources and community here to live out your preferences safely and fulfillingly. Let us inspire you and accompany you on your journey through the exciting world of BDSM, fetish, and kink.

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The 7 Most Common BDSM Myths and Clichés

4 Min. Lesezeit Where there’s a kink, there’s a myth. Today’s topic is BDSM myths. We’ve all encountered clichés and statements surrounding the topic of BDSM. “They’re constantly beating each other,” “They’re incapable of having relationships,” “There’s something wrong with their psychology.” Such statements are not only false but also unnecessary and fall into the category of “kink-shaming.” […]

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Locktober – Merciless Lockdown in Your Underwear!

4 Min. Lesezeit Since the pandemic, most of us are probably tired of the word “lockdown.” So, some of you may raise an eyebrow when hearing about “Locktober” and think twice before reading further. Don’t worry – in Locktober, the lockdown only applies to your dicks, while you yourself are free. We’ll explain what it’s all about, why […]

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Getting into BDSM for couples: A guide

6 Min. Lesezeit Ready to discover the world of BDSM with your partner? Our ultimate guide for couples will show you how to live out your fantasies safely and sensually. Immerse yourself in the exciting world of dominance and devotion. Read now and ignite new passion!

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Wishes in BDSM: Express yourself Sexy!

4 Min. Lesezeit Do you have secret BDSM desires that appear in your wildest dreams? Dive into the exciting world of BDSM and find out how you can live out these desires in a safe and real way. Click here to find out more and discover your fantasies!

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Tongue fetish

5 Min. Lesezeit Do you get hot at the sight of a tongue? Whether it’s sucking sweets or erotic tongue kisses – discover what makes a real tongue fetish and how you can live it out. Find out more about the exciting world of tongue games and find matching accessories with us!

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Your electroplay guide for extra tingling pleasure

3 Min. Lesezeit Exciting experience with electroplay and bring high voltage into your love life with targeted equipment and precautions. E-stimulation enchants with its versatile applications: For sensual pleasures or deep, thrilling sensations. This guide will help you master safe use, choose the right electro toys and vary the intensity of stimulation.

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The BDSM roles

5 Min. Lesezeit Our comprehensive selection offers insights into over 40 exciting play personalities. Immerse yourself in a dense thicket of desire and lust as you explore the variety of sexual possibilities. From playful brat-tamers to sensitive daddies and strict masters – you’ll find everything your heart desires here.

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Let’s talk about objectification

3 Min. Lesezeit Immerse yourself in the exciting world of objectification! Discover the seductive art of BDSM role-play and experience how power, devotion and passion come together. From transformation into an object of desire to exciting game variations – this article leaves nothing to be desired.

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What is tunnel play? BDSM games

3 Min. Lesezeit The captivating world of BDSM, where time seems to stand still, and every touch ignites a new ecstasy. From burning ointments to icy cold – feel the power of sensuality that holds you captive. No return, no limits. Are you ready to cross the tunnel of lust?

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Dating: Safe behaviour at a BDSM rendezvous

7 Min. Lesezeit Safe and exciting dating locations for your BDSM rendezvous. From cosy cafés and intimate bars to active excursions – find out which location suits you and your desires best. Be flexible and open yourself up to new experiences, because the first date can be the start of something unique.

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The Humbler: perfect for your ball torture

4 Min. Lesezeit Discover the exciting BDSM toy, the Humbler, which was specially developed for Ball Torture. Find out how you can use this torture tool to inflict pain and dominance on your lover. Immerse yourself in a new world of submission and intensify your sex life with exciting games.

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What does kink-shaming mean?

4 Min. Lesezeit Explore the deeper meaning of kink-shaming and its impact on the BDSM community. Recognise the importance of taking decisive action against this harmful behaviour and how the principle of “YKINMKBYKIO” promotes acceptance and tolerance.

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Warning signals in BDSM

10 Min. Lesezeit Discover the warning signs and red flags of BDSM and learn how to protect yourself from unhealthy relationships and manipulation. Get to know the red flags and become an expert in recognising the boundaries and protecting yourself. Read now and navigate the world of BDSM safely.

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Metaconsensus and CNC: Education on BDSM practices and responsibility

4 Min. Lesezeit In BDSM, everything is based on the clear consent and agreement of all participants. This clearly distinguishes BDSM from violence or assault. It is of the utmost importance that every single person involved fully agrees to the actions. In the BDSM context, the abbreviation CNC is often used, which stands for “Consensual Non-Consent”.

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Ageplay – taboo-breaking fantasy or harmless role-playing game?

4 Min. Lesezeit Ageplay in BDSM refers to roleplay in which one or more men are given or treated as a different age identity. The person can appear either older or younger than in reality. Often the play is centred on mimicking a younger age, with babies, children or teenagers being popular age groups. However, it is important to note that ageplay does not necessarily have to involve sexual aspects.

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Covering in BDSM

3 Min. Lesezeit In the BDSM dating world, “covering” refers to being secured by a trusted third party. In the past, “chaperones” were traditionally used for this, but nowadays informed people who are good friends are favoured. Modern technologies such as mobile phones and clever strategies play an important role here. After all, dating problems can affect anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

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BDSM forced ejaculation – prostate & sperm milking made easy

5 Min. Lesezeit Although the term “BDSM forced ejaculation” may sound unpleasant or threatening to some, this BDSM practice of prostate massage is popular among BDSM enthusiasts. The aim of forced ejaculation is to elicit your lover’s hot sperm in a restrained state through BDSM forced ejaculation until it has all been extracted from you while you scream, […]

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Impact Play: Exciting strokes and their many possibilities

9 Min. Lesezeit Have you ever thought about exciting games with spanking? Perhaps you are imagining a scene with a whip and a St Andrew’s cross. It could be that you have similar fantasies to mine. For example, you could imagine lying naked in a dungeon with your arms tied over your head with a rope while your partner decides which spanking instruments to use, such as a paddle, a flogger, a crop or simply his hand.

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Gays and beards – why gays are so into facial hair

4 Min. Lesezeit The well-known “Have Sex with a Guy with a Moustache Day” is celebrated on 18 November, and many gay men like to take part in it. It is worth noting that gay men often feel a strong attraction to men with beards, which has also attracted the interest of scientists. Researchers now claim to know the reasons for this preference. In this article, we look at what these reasons are and whether you absolutely need to grow a beard now.

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Limits and boundaries in BDSM

3 Min. Lesezeit Limits are of great importance in BDSM and refer to the personal boundaries of both the dominant and submissive partner. There are hard and soft limits that define the framework for the game. It is therefore particularly important at the beginning of a relationship to communicate these limits openly in order to ensure safe and consensual play.

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BDSM Session: Time to Play!

4 Min. Lesezeit In the BDSM scene, the term “session” refers to the period of time during which BDSM activities take place. It can be translated as “session”, “event” or “treatment”. Professional masters/dominas also use this term to refer to their meetings with clients.

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Edgeplay – To the limit

3 Min. Lesezeit “Edgeplay” is a BDSM term that refers to practices where there is a certain risk to physical health or psyche. It stands for activities that take place at the limits of what is acceptable and can be described as edge play.

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Tied up – Penis bondage positions

4 Min. Lesezeit There’s hardly anything hotter than a tightly bound, hard cock lying in front of you just for you alone. The strangled skin takes on a soft blue colour and his bulging balls are ready to explode. Patience, the right equipment and a comfortable bondage position are particularly important for penis bondage. As this is an extremely sensitive area, some safety precautions must also be observed.

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The Uniform Fetish

4 Min. Lesezeit The “uniform fetish” refers to a sexual preference in which people become sexually aroused when they see people in uniforms. Uniforms are specialised items of clothing that are often used to present a common and representative appearance in public. They symbolise the role or affiliation of the wearer to a particular group or profession. From police officers wielding intimidating batons to doctors performing rectal exams, many gay men have enjoyed the sight of men in uniform for generations.

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Everything you need to know about the emotional BDSM drop

7 Min. Lesezeit In BDSM, a “drop” or “crash” can occur after an intense session, in which a person experiences negative emotional or physical effects. There are two main forms of drop: the sub drop for the submissive person and the dom drop for the dominant part. It is important to deal with a drop appropriately to ensure the health and well-being of everyone involved.

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Safety Philosophy TPE – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

4 Min. Lesezeit In BDSM, which stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism, there are various practices, guiding philosophies and types of relationships. One of these is Total Power Exchange, also known as TPE. TPE refers to a type of power transfer that is often used in D/s (dominance and submission) or M/s (master and serf) relationships. This article will tell you everything you need to know about it.

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Bondage positions for beginners: Awesome tips for gentle bondage play

6 Min. Lesezeit Imagine your partner helplessly tied up with his arse cheeks spread. The possibilities for pampering, tormenting and stimulating him are endless. The bondage positions offer plenty of room for creativity. Bondage is not only a highlight for BDSM fans, but also a special option for gentle gays. But what is actually so special about BDSM?

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Safety Philosophy RACK – what does that mean in the BDSM world?

4 Min. Lesezeit BDSM is about more than just letters. There are various concepts designed to ensure that everyone involved has fun and no one is harmed. Over time, the BDSM community has developed different guiding philosophies. There is no fixed number, as different groups and individuals may have their own principles and values. Nevertheless, there are well-known guiding philosophies that are often discussed in the BDSM context.

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Safety Philosophy SSC – what does this mean in the BDSM world?

4 Min. Lesezeit There is more to BDSM than just letters and there are good reasons for this. There are guiding philosophies that have been developed by the BDSM community to ensure that no one is harmed in the game and that everyone has fun. There is no exact number, as different groups and individuals may have their own principles and values. However, there are widespread and recognised guiding philosophies that are often discussed in the BDSM context.

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The role of the BDSM slave: lust, submission and surrender

7 Min. Lesezeit BDSM has been making its way into more and more bedrooms since the sexy adventures of Mr Grey. And for us gays, too, it has become a fetish that is anything but swept under the carpet. On the contrary: thanks to the right forums and partners, those who are into it can now really live it out – both in bed and in everyday life; as a BDSM slave or master.

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BDSM: What does submission mean?

3 Min. Lesezeit The term submission comes from the English, with various meanings including “presentation”, “delivery”, “sending in”, “application”, “registration” and “submission”. In the BDSM context, submission refers to the voluntary giving up of control to one or more persons. Together with sadism, submission forms the “S” in BDSM and is an umbrella term for relinquishing control, trusting someone else and/or submission.

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Safeword: How to use it correctly during BDSM sex

5 Min. Lesezeit Safeword: The safety measure for sexual encounters and BDSM! Learn more about the importance and use of a safeword to keep sessions or relationships safe at all times. Gain the knowledge to enjoy playful and exciting experiences with your partner while staying safe and protected at all times. Find out now how to use a safeword to ensure a safe and pleasurable sexual journey of discovery!

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BDSM: What is Dominance?

4 Min. Lesezeit Dominance denotes a higher status or power of an individual, group or thing compared to others. The term comes from the Latin word “dominus”, which means “owner of a house or dominion”.

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BDSM: What is bondage and what do I have to watch out for when tying up!

4 Min. Lesezeit Bondage is an aspect of BDSM where a person is restrained in some way to restrict their freedom of movement. These bondage games can include various psychological elements, such as obedience bondage, where a person assumes a certain position after receiving a command from their dominant partner, without the use of physical restraints.

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Why is aftercare so important after sex?

4 Min. Lesezeit The art of aftercare: the overlooked but essential component of a BDSM session. Learn how loving care and attention after play can take the experience to the next level. Discover the importance of aftercare and learn how to optimally round off the shiny centre of a BDSM session. Immerse yourself in the quiet and captivating world of aftercare now!

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All about the hot Mud-Play-Fetish

3 Min. Lesezeit We all know “Matching” from Grindr – “mud”, on the other hand, is about a damn hot fetish where it’s allowed to get dirty. Professionally, the talk is of salirophilia, behind it is simply the passion for mud.

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Power imbalance in BDSM – Do I prefer to be submissive or the master?

4 Min. Lesezeit Learn all about the essential feature of BDSM – the power imbalance! This concept is about one person having control over one or more others. It is at the core of BDSM and distinguishes it from general fetishes and kinks. Discover the different forms of power imbalance and how it plays a role in relationships. We explain to you exactly what power means and how it is applied in BDSM activities. Dive into the world of BDSM now!

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Latex – What you need to know about this second skin sex fetish!

5 Min. Lesezeit Discover the fascinating latex fetish and experience a world full of sensuality and aesthetics. Immerse yourself in the tight and elastic material that emphasises the contours of the body and enables an exciting game of touch and sensitivity. Find out more about the many uses of latex clothing and discover a new dimension of eroticism. Enjoy the sensual feeling of latex on your skin and experience the special flair of the latex fetish.

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Am I a pervert, or what exactly does this term mean?

3 Min. Lesezeit Live free from shame, follow your sexual preferences, and don’t let yourself be restricted by social norms. The term “kinky” is subjective and should be used with caution. Make sure you engage in consensual acts where no one is harmed, and be proud of your preferences as long as they are respectful and consensual.

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Kinks: Everything you need to know!

4 Min. Lesezeit Discover the exciting world of kink and find out more about sexual preferences outside social norms. Immerse yourself in the kink community, respect boundaries and use safewords. Expand your understanding of sexual diversity, but don’t forget that kink is just one part of your sexuality. Enjoy the exciting side of kink, but always keep your wellbeing in mind.

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The fantastic world of fetish

4 Min. Lesezeit Explore the diverse forms of expression of sexual preferences in the field of fetishism. Immerse yourself in the world of fetishes and kinks and broaden your understanding of sexual diversity. Learn more about the boundaries between fetish and disorder, and always emphasise consensuality and respect.

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What is watersports / golden shower / piss play?

5 Min. Lesezeit Discover the excitement of urine play! Whether known as golden showers, wet games or golden fists, many men love to urinate on or in someone, get wet or even drink urine. In this article, you’ll learn the most important facts about this fascinating fetish. Venture into the world of golden showers!

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Breathplay: You take my breath away!

8 Min. Lesezeit Discover the exciting world of BDSM breathplay! Get to know the meaning, risks and different practices. Find out why people enjoy this fetish and which safety aspects should be taken into account. Immerse yourself in a fascinating form of play that evokes both euphoria and fear. Click here to find out more!


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