A gay threesome can be an extremely pleasurable, captivating and exciting sexual experience for singles and couples. Above all, a threesome is suitable for you if you are open to such an adventure. Adding a third person to the sexual equation is a real turning point for many couples. It brings a whole new dynamic to a previously monogamous relationship. Which, with the right attitude, can prove very liberating and enriching.
Basic facts about threesomes – Planning is half the sex date
Planning a threesome among gay men can be a stressful experience. This is especially true when couples are considering bringing a third person into bed, onto the couch or into the playroom. But such an adventure is also extremely exciting for single gays. Because they are, so to speak, going into other people’s hands and then into four hands at once. The uncertainty of whether they are really safe can be intimidating for some men. Regardless of whether you are still unsure, looking for additional tips or have already experienced threesomes.
Here you’ll find information and 5 tips. These can help you set rules and boundaries when it comes to a threesome.
1. State expectations before meeting
When it comes to a threesome, it doesn’t matter whether it’s made up of three strangers who have arranged to meet online. Whether you’re a couple, invite a third party. Or whether the setup is different. The best way to have a really hot, bubbly date is to clearly communicate everyone’s expectations before the meeting. Then there are no surprises when someone suddenly wants to fuck without a condom, someone likes poppers or is into chemsex. This doesn’t sound very appealing. But if expectations are clear before the threesome, ambiguities won’t suddenly arise during the session and be really distracting.
2. The most important thing – safety in threesomes
Although it should be a matter of course, the topic of health protection tends to get lost in the heat of the moment. Before you have a threesome, be sure to talk about how you can protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections. For example, PrEP is a good option. But condoms are also an effective way to prevent infection with hepatitis, gonorrhoea, syphilis or other unpleasantness. Feel free to ask a stranger for his/her latest test result. It’s your health, so open and honest answers are important.
3. Top or bottom & To kiss or not to kiss
Of course, it’s appealing to go on a discovery tour during a threesome and find out whose top and wants to fuck and who’s bottom willingly puts her hole there. However, there are few things worse than finding yourself in bed with two other bottoms when you’d rather have a hard cock in your hole than be active yourself. Especially if you and your partner as a couple want to invite a third party. First work out among yourselves what works for both of you and what is not desirable.
Do the same with regard to the guest. You must then communicate your results explicitly to the third party. So that they know what they can and may do. Especially for couples, kissing is a sensitive issue. Some couples enjoy engaging in all kinds of play with a third party, but without kissing the guest. You should also communicate this important detail clearly so that the wrong guy doesn’t end up with someone else’s tongue down his throat during the threesome.
4. Pay attention to the chemistry between the parties
Even worse than loud bottoms or tops is when the spark does not skip. Or the chemistry somehow does not fit. In this case, don’t try to force it. Rather, use your knowledge to create a sexual dynamic with the respective participant. If you don’t know their preferences, find out what turns them on and play with it. A good way is to divide your time between the other two guys. Give your partner a passionate blowjob first, then give it to your guest. You can also get a lot of action by taking yourself out of the threesome. Asking the other two to continue, and telling them that you would like to watch them. So there are always ways to create the right chemistry in a threesome.
5. Giving feedback
What can be especially helpful for couples is to give feedback on how each person felt about the threesome, what was good and where they may have felt uncomfortable. This way, you know what to look out for in future meetings with a third party, so that everyone really gets their money’s worth.
Where to look for a threesome
You can look for a candidate in the real world or use the internet. Both options have advantages and disadvantages.
Three-way candidates in bars, clubs and discos for gays
Although today a large part of the LGBTIQ* community is mainly in the virtual world when it comes to finding sex partners, there are still enough men who prefer to go to bars, clubs or discos to meet people, flirt or even find someone for a hot threesome.
Going on the prowl in the real world has the great advantage that you can see immediately what you can theoretically get into bed with, without Photoshop or even fake pictures. In addition, as a couple, you can get to know the candidate a little better over a good drink and see if the chemistry is right.
Chemistry is essential in a threesome. If the vibes are bad with only one of you, the whole action can only fail because one of you will be left out and won’t have any fun. No matter how hot the third person is, how tasty his cock is or how much cum he spurts.
On the internet for a threesome
Dating apps like Grindr, Gayromeo, Hornet and others are a quick and easy way to find a hot guy for a threesome with your sweetheart. When looking around on dating apps, there are a few things you should keep in mind.
A mention in your profile that you are looking for a three-way can be helpful, as can a brief description of what qualities a candidate should bring to the table. This will narrow down the pool of candidates and probably speed up the search.
As is the case almost everywhere, it is extremely important to sell yourself well when searching online for three prospects. An interesting profile is much more exciting than one that doesn’t really say anything. If you are looking for a third party on a dating app as a couple, there should be pictures of both of you. If you have separate profiles, it makes sense to search for a third party on both profiles.
To make sure that a threesome is really what everyone wants, it is important to ask for or give each online consent again when actually meeting the interested parties. This way it is clear to everyone what is going on and nothing stands in the way of a lively sex date for three.
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