Adventure Inner World – A session from the active fisting side. The length of this chapter alone shows that the duties of fisting are unevenly distributed – the active person has more tasks, but the job is no less satisfying for that.
Nail care
It all starts with cutting your fingers short and filing them smooth so as not to hurt your partner when you insert your hand. You can test whether they are smooth enough by putting finger after finger in your mouth. Your tongue and lips are sensitive enough to see if there are any sharp edges left.
Gloves
The bead at the end of the glove can rub. Carefully cut it off, and then be careful when slipping it on that it doesn’t tear. From now on, it’s all about: Watch what you touch. Especially in public places (clubs, party locations), there is a high chance that there are germs on the clothes. They should not end up in the butt of your playmate.
Active fisting lube
Has the passive already given himself a charge? Ask, otherwise inject liquid lube through the rosette into his bowels or push firm lube sticks (Crisco bunnies) into him. Be careful when you insert it so that you don’t hurt his rosette before the session even starts.
First one, then two …
Then grease the hole and crack well. You should massage gently, but thoroughly. Depending on the degree of relaxation, you can soon put a finger in his rosette. If it opens slightly, let the second one follow. Hold your hand in such a way that he can develop trust in you. Of course, this only works if you are in constant (eye) contact with the passive. Pause when his hole is twitching, push forward when it relaxes, always move forward only millimetres at a time and be ready to pull your hand back at any moment. Be careful never to overstep his boundaries.
Who leads in active fisting?
Among beginners, of course, always the one with the most experience, with the needs of the passive always being paramount. He must be able to open up. If he can’t do that, it doesn’t help to push.
Ouch!
What to do when the other person actually wants to be fisted with two arms, but already cries ouch at the penetration with the little finger? Of course, it is first important to find out if you have done a bad job: Have you applied enough lube? Are the gloves thickly lubricated (latex without lube is very tugging!)? Did you give him enough time? If you can calmly answer yes to all these questions, then his eyes are bigger than his rosette. Use the time – and the smeared hand – to stretch his hole a little and teach him the pleasure of stretching and relaxing. Relax! – this phrase only makes the other person tense up even more.
Stretch
Curl your index finger a little and turn it from the inside to the outside as if the rosette had a thread. Feel the muscle and stroke along it, just as you would massage a tense muscle. From the inside to the outside is important in our experience, because this direction is most likely to signal the sphincter muscle to open up. When you have already stretched a little with two fingers, let a third follow, with the index and ring fingers over the middle finger. Let the fourth follow at a considerable distance.
Now it’s getting interesting. At this point, you can play a little with his prostate to bring the expected reward within reach of your partner. But watch him very carefully. Does he like gentle stroking, tickling, squeezing, rubbing? Then do just that.
Slow
Active fisting is a slow technique, especially for beginners, and the stretch benefits greatly from it. Only give the sphincter as much pain as it can take, so your partner has time to reinterpret it. As a guide, when your knuckles reach the sphincter, move forward one millimetre per five minutes, lingering in between. The intensity of the experience is independent of the depth of penetration.
At the apex
The biggest stretch is in the sphincter muscle at your knees. Avoid jerky, hard or fast movements at this point. And wait. Suddenly, all by itself, it will go »flop« and you are in. It is an unbelievable pull, and the first time you do it you are quite surprised by the effect. If it doesn’t »go«, the last millimetre is missing; and the passive person can’t relax even after the best coaxing, it can be quite helpful to distract him, e.g. by biting his foot or pinching his nipple unprepared. When he slides in, it’s time to clench your hand into a fist so that you don’t hit the top of the ampoule right away. (And actually, it is only now that you can rightly call the game »fisting«, up to this point it was just »handing«.)
The aim is not to accommodate the hand, but to create pleasure with the action!
Now be prepared for violent contractions of his sphincter muscle. He is not doing this on purpose, so no need to retreat in a huff. It is quite appropriate to stay in this position for a while until your partner gets used to your hand. If that’s too much, pull your hand out carefully, give him a break and then start again. And now, don’t think of all the porn where someone sits down on a roadshow from one moment to the next. The performers have been waiting a long time. Start with slow, careful movements: Clench the fist a little. Pull your hand back a little and then push it forward again. You can also tap your arm lightly so that the vibration is transferred to the bowel. You should wait until your partner has become accustomed to your hand before turning.
What you can do inside:
- Persevere
- Turn your fist
- Spread your fingers
- Move forward and back
- Proceed deeper
- Drumming on the arm
Relax
Always remind your sex partner to breathe deeply just when they are about to hold their breath in pain or fear of the pain. »Active/passive, that is not true for me. One opens, the other fufills, both are active, both are passive!« (Jürgen)
Active fisting: What next?
Not everyone enjoys the game of depth. Many passives are more than satisfied with penetration. And even men who would love to spy on you in the deep just aren’t built to get there. Now it’s time to explore. What works? And how much of all this is good for your counterpart?
Guide
If you want to go deep, it is helpful to remember the location of the sigmoid now so that you can find the right entrance. With one finger (which one is your longest?) find the transition from the ampulla into the colon. When you have found the entrance into the sigmoid, let the finger slide in (is there enough lubricant?). Now continue in the same way as you have done so far with the sphincter. The intestine is surrounded by ring muscles, which also need to be stretched step by step.
What are you actually doing?
In order to be able to work in depth when active fisting, you have to »thread« the intestine on your hand, like you do in the sleeve of a jumper. But if the sleeve is too tight, if it is twisted, if it lies so strangely that you cannot find your way in with the best will in the world, that’s it. Don’t forget to put some lubricant in front of you when you’re forcing yourself forward. Unfortunately, because you can’t see what’s going on inside, you need to have good dexterity.
Pulsing veins
If you manage to penetrate deeper into your counterpart, you will reach something pulsating sooner or later. The internet likes to talk about having the aorta of the passive in your hands, but it is only the iliac artery. But this fact does not diminish the impressive and lasting feeling of being very close to the other. When someone is deeply relaxed, the so-called fist belly can occur. Even six-packs then become a paunch when they are deeply relaxed.
Finale Grande
When the passive has had enough, pull the hand out slowly and advise him to tense the muscles as he does so, as if having a bowel movement. This will help to open the sphincter voluntarily and expel the hand. Especially if he has just cum, the hand in the ass becomes very unbearable.
In Contact
If you ask what to do next, you have lost contact with the other person. Look him in the eye. Ask him a question. Spit into your hand, into his rosette. Once you are back in contact with him, any technique is the right one.
Blood on the glove
When you pull your glove out, you will see thin red threads snaking along the glove. Keep calm! If the blood is bright red like strawberry yoghurt, it is almost certainly a burst vein. Pull your hand out and wait a while for the wound to close. You can also insert a round ice cube into a condom in the rosette and leave it there for a while. It helps the tissue to contract more quickly. If the blood is dark red, you can assume that it is coming from the deeper regions of the intestine. Then you should stop.
At least that’s what I strongly advise you to do if you don’t want to risk causing serious damage to your fist partner. Calmly pull your hand out, wipe your bottom, help your partner to his feet and get dressed, and then take a taxi to the nearest hospital or call an ambulance (although it often takes a long time for one to arrive). All major accidents are due to not stopping at this point. Calling an ambulance is always a better decision than risking the passive person bleeding to death.
What to look out for
- If you have little experience, only fist experienced people, and tell them beforehand.
- If the passive has taken drugs, you must be even more careful. His experience is impaired. He may overdo it. The hand you fist with must only touch lubricant. If you have held on to something or have been propped up somewhere, change the glove.
- Never go further than you feel comfortable with – even if your partner asks you to.
- Maintain eye contact so that you can see what is going on in your fisting partner’s mind.
- Keep adding lubricant.
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