When two men are doing it without restraint, the sounds are pretty hot. There’s a slapping sound when your pelvis hits each other’s buttocks, and the moisture from the lube can be felt with your ears. If you don’t have a gag between your lips, your lips are most likely to make a moaning sound during sex?
Then you should try Dirty talk! It will give you that extra kick during sex, and you can turn all your dirty thoughts into words. Dirty Talk is the perfect way for you to get down and dirty for once.
Dirty Talk: What is it actually, and how does it work properly?
Bad news – there is no universal guide for dirty talk. It always depends on how you and your lover usually feel. Do you prefer it romantic and affectionate? Are there rose petals rather than nipple clamps on your bed? Then you shouldn’t just shout vulgar and obscene words into his ear.
But even if you are Vanillas, dirty talk is not impossible. It’s erotic for you to breathe sensual words into each other’s ears, express your feelings or simply gasp a subtle “You smell so good”
Dirty talk is one thing above all: practice! If you want to be on the safe side, don’t start talking straight away, but talk to your partner about it first. If you’ve been silent for the last hundred times you’ve fucked, you won’t be able to go on verbal turbo the 101st time.
Slowly approach – tell him what you are feeling
When you do it for the first time, the typical nervousness can set in. He’s penetrating you with a dildo, and you’re boiling over with lust. Breathe exactly that into his ear. “It feels so good” or “It’s so hot, but your cock is hotter” will not only get you going, but him too.
You can also ask him what he should do next. With the dildo example, you could tell him that you want to feel his cock inside you now. For beginners, it is often simple and small movements that open up the tingling game of dirty talk. “You smell good”, “Your taste turns me on”, or even “Fuck me”, belong here.
Sexy compliments take away his and your inhibitions
Do you know that you sometimes feel insecure in bed? Does your ass look good? Are you sure your belly hasn’t become too flabby? You can loosen up with a strong dose of poppers, but also with words. You are not the only one who sometimes feels insecure. Maybe your partner is a bit inhibited and doesn’t know if he really cuts a good figure in his position.
A (dirty) compliment can work wonders. Is he kneeling in front of you and sticking his ass out? Then tell him how horny this move makes you. “Your ass makes me so hot that I want to fuck it” are phrases that (almost) every man likes to hear in bed. On the one hand you give him feedback that he really turns you on and on the other hand you boost his self-confidence.
Express wishes – for even hotter sex
We all want to be satisfied during sex, but sometimes our partner doesn’t do what we want. It’s not a sign that he’s not up for it, it’s just proof that he’s not psychic. Be honest: How should your partner know that you would like to feel his tongue on your asshole? He thinks at that moment that his hand on your cock is the fulfilment for you.
Dirty talk is not just a verbal accessory, it’s also a way to get sex off on the right foot. Just be open and tell him what you would like. “If you wanted to lick my balls now, it would be paradise on earth”. But you can also be more direct: “Suck my balls, it makes me so horny”.
Here again it depends on how you usually communicate with each other. Are you more open or inhibited? Adapt your statements accordingly!
Feelings are allowed during sex – even love swoons provide sensuality
You have just experienced a wonderful orgasm and are cuddling up close to your gay lover? You are a couple and didn’t just meet at the bar? Then seize the moment and tell him your feelings openly and honestly. A breathy “I love you” is just as permissible as a stuttering “that was wonderful”. But please refrain from asking questions like: “How was I?”, because so much cliché is really a bit too much.
Even if you are in a state of over-exuberance, don’t tell your bar acquaintance that you are madly in love with him. This could seem very strange if you haven’t reached a consensus about your relationship beforehand.
Summary: Dirty talk is an asset to gay sex – turn thoughts into words
Are you bored with silence during sex? Dirty talk is the perfect way to get your needs, desires and emotions out. Don’t you dare? Then use the miracle of technology “WhatsApp” and send your lover a dirty verbal message. It’s easier than saying it directly, and makes him really hot while he’s on the move.
Dimming the lights during sex can also help you to overcome your inhibitions the first time you engage in verbal eroticism. Don’t worry about “using the wrong words” everything that you enjoy is allowed. Whether you want to be affectionate and romantic or taboo and dirty is up to you!
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