There are many ways to get your money’s worth in bed. One of them is role-playing games, because they allow you to invent completely new characters. Whether you want to slip into the role of Batman, become a living toilet for your cat or live as a dog – the variety of role-playing games is huge. We take you on a journey into the world of role-playing games and reveal everything you always wanted to know about them.
Role play in the world of BDSM – the different variations and types
Basically, role play works quite simply: you take on a different identity for a certain period of time and slip into a new role. As a rule, you don’t play alone, but together with your lover. After all, it would be boring if you turned into a strict teacher, but then there wasn’t a naughty schoolboy in your neighbourhood.
Important to know: Role play is not about dressing up and looking like someone else. It is important that you actually embody the role and slip into the respective identity. If you are the teacher, you should not only look like one, but also interact accordingly!
In the BDSM, role play is a common form of play, and there are countless variations. Even if you’re “just” a sub and your partner is the dom, it’s still a kind of game. Because you are miming a submissive personality and submitting to him, even though you might even wear the trousers in everyday life. What you want to portray is up to your imagination.
The thrill of role play – why so many gays are into it
If you ask a gay man what he likes about role-playing games, you’ll get an answer. If you ask another person the same question, the answer may be completely different. Everyone has their own reasons why they enjoy puppy play, like being a superhero during sex or shine as a great dominator.
Almost everyone has sexual fantasies that they can more or less live out. Role-playing games broaden your horizons and allow you to immerse yourself in strange worlds without changing yourself. When you go back to work the next day, you’re not the naughty little puppy from last night. You’re back to being the cool, tough guy who doesn’t look like he’s role-playing. The performances are as colourful and flexible as you are. Sometimes it’s about stylistically emphasising a relationship of dependency or power. Typical constellations such as boss and employee, teacher and pupil, policeman and prisoner are very popular here. The more you live your role, the more authentic the feeling will be. You can also handcuff your lover in your pyjamas, but the vibe is even more real in a hot uniform.
When you’re in your role, you can live out all your fantasies shamelessly. The only requirement is that your partner is just as keen as you are. Some things are not compatible with our needs and values in real life. If you play a role, you can free yourself from it as an individual.
Example: Envision being a company manager with an attractive intern. Although you maintain professional boundaries, you fantasize about dominating – the intern satisfying you under the desk. The power dynamic excites you. In role play, you’re the demanding boss with the intern after hours on the desk, intensifying the experience with vivid imagery.
Forbidden allure– Role-playing games are suitable for borderline gamers
How far you go with role-playing is up to your imagination. Most of us have a deep-seated passion that we would never be able to fulfil in real life. That’s why it’s important to realise that fantasies in role play say nothing about your real feelings and emotions. Just because you spank your naughty puppy’s arse at home doesn’t make you a dog hater. It’s a game, a means to an end, and has nothing in common with your real personality.
A special feature of role-playing is that you and your partner can push boundaries and go beyond them. You’ll face dangerous situations that you would never want to experience in real life. If you both want it, even a lack of consent is not taboo. The important thing is that it is a role-playing game and that a “stop” is immediately accepted by one side.
Getting out of your skin – role-playing facilitates your sexuality in a special way
Has anyone ever said to you that they “can’t get out of their skin”? This means nothing other than that they can’t do things because they don’t match their personality. But what would happen if you could go off the rails and take on a different identity if you wanted to? With role play it works, and you can experience things that you wouldn’t know in real life. An advantage of this type of sexual play is that “your role” disappears after the session. This can be a huge relief for your conscience.
Imagine you love your partner, and he wants to be whipped, beaten and hurt in bed. It makes you horny to punish him hard, but at the same time your loving heart is bleeding. By slipping into the role of a power-obsessed sadist who unscrupulously thinks only of his own pleasure, you can fulfil his lustful desires. The guilty conscience evaporates into thin air, because in the end, it wasn’t you who was the bad guy, but “your role”.
Especially when it comes to topics such as (consensual) sadism or even humiliation, the distinction between role and real person is a great advantage. The intense emotions in your partner remain limited to the game, and then have little to do with you as a partner.
Conclusion: Great variety in bed, but not a free pass for everything
A fulfilling role play for both of you is based on agreement. Just because you’re suddenly the boss doesn’t mean you can do everything without being asked. Define the framework conditions in advance, and agree on a safe word if one of you can’t or doesn’t want to do it. The more precisely you talk about the limits of the game, the deeper and hornier your adventure will be.
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