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The right spanking positions turn a harmless slap on the butt into a real highlight. Sure, you can smack your partner’s behind in (almost) any pose you can imagine. But if you want to spank properly, the position matters.
There’s a difference between giving a casual pat on the butt and laying them over your knee for a thorough spanking. Does this all sound new to you? Are you completely new to spanking or just curious? We’ll reveal the hottest spanking positions and how to get started with the thrill of smacking.
Spanking Guide for Beginners – Tools, Requirements, and More
You know you’d like to be spanked, and your partner is eager to lay you over their knee in one of those hot spanking positions. Of course, it could be the other way around, but we have to start somewhere. If you both want the same thing, that’s a great foundation.
At the start of any new experience, communication is key—even if it seems boring. One of you will be submitting to the other, and the other will engage in consensual “violence.” This requires trust, as well as clear boundaries.
If you’re the passive partner, you set the limits. The active partner has no say when it comes to your boundaries. They can express what they are unwilling to do and suggest spanking positions, but they cannot demand anything from you.
Once you’re on the same page and can talk openly about the topic, you need to answer a few key questions:
- What, how, and where? Decide how long your first spanking session will last, where the spanking will occur, which positions to use, and the intensity. Start with bare hands to get a feel for it.
- Learning reactions: “The first hit is the deepest.” Inspired by Rod Stewart, this isn’t just a play on words but a real spanking truth. Everything after the first strike is just a continuation. As the active partner, pay close attention to your counterpart’s reactions. If it seems too much, stop.
- Safeword is essential: What looks hot in a movie can feel completely wrong in real life. If the passive partner wants to stop for any reason, they need a safeword. Say it, and the session ends immediately. Never feel guilty if you no longer want to continue.
Before we get into spanking positions, let’s look at tools that might come in handy. Sure, hands are perfect for starters, but if you enjoy it, many are quick to want more.
Spanking Tools for Beginners and Advanced Users
The hand is the number one tool of pleasure. As the “spanker,” you have perfect control over the intensity of the strikes and can adjust how much they sting. Tensing the palm and curling the fingers back allows for short, sharp slaps that are ideal for beginners. The further you swing, the more it smacks (and burns). Experiment early on to find your personal comfort (or pain) limits.
If hands aren’t enough, there’s a range of popular BDSM toys for spanking:
- The Paddle: A paddle is a popular extension of your hand. Made from wood or plastic, it increases the impact without leaving beginner territory. Paddles have a wider striking surface, reducing the risk of injury. Be sure to strike flat and avoid using the edge to prevent injuries.
- The Cane: A classic cane or rod is much harsher on the skin and was historically used for corporal punishment. These implements are flexible and thin but thicker than a crop. The pain from a cane is sharp and burning, and even gentle strikes often leave red marks for days. Even while sitting, the spankee will remember you—guaranteed.
- The Crop: Crops are technically whips and are typically used in horseback riding. In spanking, they’re used when pain thresholds are very high. A strike with a crop produces a sharp, hissing sound and leaves a stinging sensation. Expert spankers only use a crop after warming up the buttocks with a flogger or paddle.
- The Flogger: This whip type is beginner-friendly and is often called a “vanilla whip” by hardcore BDSM enthusiasts. The structure is soft, with strands made from plastic, leather, or even animal hair. The impact is subtle, making it less intense. Traditional BDSM whips are more defined in their “language,” reliably leaving marks.
Before turning your bedroom into a torture chamber, start with your hands. You’ll discover how many variations are possible. Light palm slaps, solid hits with the edge of the hand—test things out before shopping for spanking toys.
The Best Spanking Positions – Comfortable and Uncomfortable
Spanking works in “almost” any position. What’s important is that the spanker is comfortable, while the spankee primarily exposes their rear. If you’re spanking other body parts, those areas come into focus. Here are three spanking positions especially popular among beginners:
1. Classic Prone Position
If they lie on their stomach while you stand beside them, it’s the perfect setup to spank their butt. Using a bed as the base provides some give, softening the impact. If your partner is on a hard floor, their body can’t absorb the strikes as easily.
Tip: Place a pillow under their stomach to elevate their buttocks slightly. This enhances both the view and the target. This position is among the most popular spanking setups.
2. All-Fours Position Offers Bold Views
When they kneel on all fours, their butt naturally arches toward you. They can rest their head on the floor, crawl in front of you, or remain still. The advantage of this position is the clear view of their butt and testicles.
Important: Avoid accidentally striking their testicles. This can cause extreme pain and other issues. While Cock & Ball Torture (CBT) is part of BDSM for some, don’t use floggers or whips carelessly in this area.
3. Over-the-Knee for Special Humiliation
If you trust each other and want a traditional “discipline” session, laying them over your knee is a hot option. Find a comfortable seat, and your spankee lies over your legs, letting their head hang forward. Their butt rests on your lap, ideally positioned for short, sharp strikes with your hand.
This position isn’t ideal for using a crop or similar tools, as you can’t swing far. But it’s perfect for quick, small smacks with a paddle or hand, combining spanking with an element of delightful humiliation.
Conclusion: Many Exciting Spanking Positions
Now you know three classic setups, but there are plenty more to explore. Experiment with different spanking positions to discover what works best for both of you. Spanking is even possible standing up—your partner could face the wall while you swing your whip or hand. Over time, you’ll gather experience and find the positions that suit you both best.
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