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Someone once said that you need to open up to have profound experiences. How true this is becomes clear if you’re a fan of fist and anal dilation, in other words, if you’re into fisting. In this special sexual practice, it’s about opening up in two ways—physically and mentally. Additionally, there are several things to consider to ensure that fisting becomes a sensual climax and an unforgettable experience for you and all involved.
Why Fisting Satisfies Desire
From a medical perspective, it’s the chemical processes that make anal dilation so stimulating. During fisting, a large amount of endorphins is released. These essentially block the sensation of pain. In your body, there’s a rise and fall of these chemical substances, leading to intense emotional reactions. Fisting enthusiasts report laughing and crying, as well as unexpected, often explosive outbursts of emotions. Fisting gives you a sense of being filled, of overflowing, of being flooded. Many describe these experiences as ecstatic.
Such intense sensations are possible because the walls of your anus are packed with nerves and blood vessels. The anus and rectum contain significantly more pleasure-enhancing nerve endings than, for example, the vagina, where nerve endings are mainly located at its opening. Additionally, your prostate is an erogenous zone and essentially functions as the male G-spot.
Beginner, “Pro,” Active or Passive—Fisting is Emotionally and Physically Unique
If you talk to people who already have experience with fist and anal dilation, they’ll tell you that fisting is an incredible experience. This practice, particularly common among gay men, allows you to experience maximum pleasure and orgasms of unrivaled intensity. For such an experience, an extremely high level of trust between the participants is necessary. After all, the active partner penetrates the passive partner deeper than would be possible with his penis.
He uses his hand, and often his arm. Only with a great deal of trust can the latter mentally engage in this experience, which many men describe as the most intimate form of sexuality. He must truly trust the hand of his partner and surrender himself to experience fisting as one of the most powerful sexual encounters.
In addition to the mental aspect, good physical preparation is needed, which usually comes in the form of stretching exercises for the anus. This brings us back to the concept of opening up. Only by preparing your anus for what’s to come can you avoid a painful session.
Preparation for fisting means that you (or your partner) can use finger play or special fist toys (such as dildos or butt plugs) to help your sphincter muscles get used to something moving in the opposite direction = anal dilation. Normally, their job is to securely seal your behind from the outside world. During fisting, the active partner has to overcome this resistance to penetrate the passive partner (also referred to as the fistee).
It’s much easier to overcome the resistance of the sphincter muscles if the anus, as well as the hand or toy of the active partner, are lubricated with fist butter or a good lubricant. This increases lubrication and makes penetration less uncomfortable. Some lubricants even contain mild numbing agents that help reduce pain. By the way, many fisting enthusiasts report that the initial discomfort quickly fades after the first few seconds. What can make fisting even more intense and exciting are extra-strong fist poppers. Nowadays, there’s a wide variety of types specifically developed for fisting.
Out of the Dirty Corner—Anal Dilation is a Clean Practice
More and more men (and women) are showing interest in this practice, which has long been a taboo, even among many gay men. Men want to experiment, push boundaries, and go beyond them. Fisting allows for all of this. Admittedly, the idea of someone inserting multiple fingers, their entire hand, or even an arm into you takes some getting used to, especially since many associate that part of the body with feces. For beginners in active fisting, it can be quite shocking at first to see and feel their hand inside another person’s body.
Good preparation (anal dilation) can help dispel these preconceptions and is essential for an arousing session. First and foremost, whether you’re the active or passive partner, you should realize that the goal of fisting is not to cause pain but to provide pleasure. Especially for beginners, this is an opportunity to emotionally approach the act of anal dilation through thorough preparation.
While the fistee can ensure cleanliness at the site of the “action” with an enema or a thorough bowel cleansing using an anal douche, the active partner can, for instance, trim their nails and use gloves. This not only prevents injuries from long nails but also protects the active partner from any residual excretions on their skin, as gloves prevent direct contact with the mucous membranes of the rectum. During these preparations, imagine in your mind what happens during fisting. This helps reduce fear, and you may find a better connection to this practice.
Fist or Anal Dilation is an Art
Fisting someone doesn’t mean brutally ramming your fist into their rear. The art lies in starting with one finger and gradually inserting more fingers into the anus until the fistee is stretched enough for the thumb and then the knuckles to pass through the sphincter without difficulty. Once this is accomplished, the active partner can form a fist inside and gently stimulate their partner with slow movements.
These back-and-forth motions should be performed slowly, otherwise, the anus might constrict as a natural reflex. The anus is opened through the hand’s back-and-forth movement. Its task is to expel whatever is inside it. The more it is stimulated, the more it tries to expel what’s inside. In fisting practice, this means the more the anus tries to expel the hand, the more the active fister reintroduces it. The high art of anal dilation lies in this regular in-and-out movement.
Anyone who tries to fully fist a novice on the first attempt is likely to fail. For the hand or arm to reach where it belongs during fisting, in addition to the previously mentioned physical preparation, the right atmosphere is also needed. For example, if you’re in the middle of a stressful work week, you’ll find it difficult to achieve the level of relaxation necessary for an exciting fist session. Therefore, it’s advisable for a beginner to schedule their first fisting session for the weekend.
To better prepare for the upcoming adventure, you can also watch some fist porn. These will give you an idea of what will happen to you later. However, always keep in mind that the performers in a fist porn are true professionals. Not everything you see will work for you right away. Fisting, as we’ve learned, requires a great deal of practice on both sides. It’s best to start slowly and experiment a lot, rather than diving straight into the deep end. To ensure everyone involved enjoys fisting, a request to stop must always be taken seriously. Only without pressure can fist and anal dilation be an unforgettable experience for everyone.
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