Feet – they carry us through life, but for some they are far more than just a means of transport. Welcome to the world of podophilia, where everything revolves around the erotic attraction of feet. But did you know that foot fetish has many more facets than you might think at first glance?
The many faces of foot fetishism
The foot fetish is extremely diverse and encompasses a wide range of activities and aesthetic preferences, so there is no single answer to what turns foot fetishists on. However, one categorisation can be made; the type of foot fetish play that someone likes usually depends on their hygiene. Foot fetish can generally be divided into two categories: clean feet and dirty feet. The most common things that turn your partner on include smelling your feet, sucking your toes or gently stroking and caressing them. The size, width and shape of your feet also play a major role. There is also whether you prefer to actively play with your feet or enjoy being played with. Some people are totally into toes, while others prefer soles or ankles. Whether they are long and thin, round and petite, big feet, small feet, high arches or overlapping certain toe shapes or anything in between or beyond.
Details such as foot jewellery, painted nails or certain footwear can also be an absolute hit. Stockings, tights or sexy shoes are popular here – everyone has their own taste. And then there are those who are particularly keen on the smell. Whether neat and clean or intensely fragrant, there is the perfect pair for everyone. Some men integrate feet into their sex life, while others find feet sexy but don’t necessarily want to use them directly for sexual stimulation. Maybe your partner is content to rub lotion or oil on your bare feet, admire your feet in tights or watch you wiggle your toes while you’re both fully clothed. A real playground for creative fantasies!
Fancy some foot sex?
If you thought a foot fetish was just about looking, you’re wrong. Foot sex is a big part of the scene. A distinction is made between stimulation with the whole bare foot or just the toes. High heels also often come into play, which leads us to the related shoe fetishism. The English terms “footjob”, “toejob” and “shoejob” are often used here.
BDSM practices such as bondage, tickling or even bastinado (foot torture) can also be part of the game. Many foot fetishists enjoy feeling their partner’s feet on their face, whether it’s a gentle foot-on-face massage or ‘trampling‘, a form of foot domination where one partner lies on the floor while the other uses their feet to apply more pressure to their face. Trampling can be one aspect of how foot fetishes can intersect with a partner’s preferences for humiliation, physical domination or other forms of BDSM. For some, it becomes particularly appealing when the testicles are treated with the feet – CBT sends its regards. And then there’s crushing: the pleasure of someone crushing something with their feet, be it fruit or model cars.
Cultural signs of foot fetishism
We can already find references to foot fetishism in history. In China, the “lotus foot” was an ideal of beauty that was cultivated well into the 20th century. There were also prominent foot lovers in the West. Just think of Cinderella with her tiny feet or King Ludwig I, who owned a marble sculpture of women’s feet.
How does a foot fetish develop?
There is no clear explanation as to why and how people develop a foot fetish. Sigmund Freud would argue that feet or toes could be seen as a substitute for the penis. Some people attribute their preference to formative experiences in their youth that influenced their psyche and sexuality. One neuroscientist surmises that it’s due to human biology, as the region of the brain responsible for sensory input from the feet is right next to the region responsible for genital stimulation. (If you’ve ever had a pedicure that perhaps felt a little too good, you’ll understand what’s meant). Personally, though, I find it much more fun to experiment with foot worship than to figure out the reason for the preference for feet. It hasn’t been proven yet, but it’s certainly exciting.
Research and foot fetish
Some scientists are not sure whether the foot fetish is really a fetish because it is so widespread. Women in particular often attach great importance to well-groomed feet and sexy shoes, while heterosexual men tend to admire women’s feet. Studies show that small, narrow feet are particularly popular with many men. And during the AIDS crisis, the demand for footjobs increased, as they were considered a particularly safe sex practice. In 1994 there was a study on homosexual couples and foot eroticism, but new research is unfortunately lacking. As a result, foot fetish often seems to be limited to heterosexual people – a false image that urgently needs new studies.
Social facts
The foot fetish is one of the most accepted fetishes in our society. Celebrities such as Quentin Tarantino, Orlando Bloom and Bülent Ceylan have already confessed to it. But not all facets are equally recognised. While men who find nylon stockings and high heels sexy often talk about it openly, the appeal of worn socks often remains hidden in kinky networks.
So, whether you’re into dainty toes, sturdy soles or erotic high heels – there are no limits in the world of foot fetish.
Things to try out
If you’re thinking about involving your feet in sex, show your partner that you’re excited to learn more about them and try new things with them. You’re not just doing this out of interest, but also out of genuine curiosity. Perhaps your partner has already told you about their foot fetish or you have noticed that they are particularly interested in your feet. In both cases, let him know that you are open to it and don’t find it strange, and ask him about his specific preferences.
Overcome shyness
Even if you show your partner that you’re willing to experiment, they might still be a little shy, especially if you’re in a new relationship or just getting to know each other. People are often hesitant to share sexual preferences that might be considered unusual. Foot fetishes are often misunderstood: Your partner might worry that you’ll turn away or find it weird. We are often taught that feet are dirty and disgusting. It’s best to put prejudices aside and be open when someone tells you about their preferences, even if they seem unusual to you.
Explore interests
Ask your partner to tell you what they particularly like. If they mention that they enjoy sucking your toes or smelling your feet, respond with: I’m looking forward to learning more about your preferences and I’m excited to see how we can make this happen. That way you can discuss what you both feel comfortable with.
Pedicure and presentation
It’s okay if you feel unsure about how your feet look. Everyone has different preferences: Some prefer well-groomed and polished feet, others find dirty feet attractive. Maybe you admire larger feet and long toes, while someone else prefers sleek or muscular feet. Regardless of the shape of your feet, it’s a good idea to take care of them. Feet should not be neglected either. A simple pedicure and regular moisturising will keep your feet looking great.
Clothes and accessories
Your partner may prefer certain shoes or accessories. If you don’t have them, ask your partner to choose them for you. If you really want to spoil him and can afford it, you can buy them yourself, otherwise he should cover the cost.
Flirting with feet
An easy way to pique your partner’s interest is to take off your shoes. On OnlyFans you can see countless videos of fans simply holding their feet up to the camera. Take off your socks and go barefoot when you’re at home, or put your feet near him. This helps to create a relaxed and arousing atmosphere.
Public foot presentation
If you’re out in public, show off your freshly pedicured feet in flip-flops or sandals and adorn them with ankle and toe jewellery. You could try this style too.
Invite your partner for a foot massage
If you’re both in the mood for more physical contact, have your partner give you a foot massage. A foot massage helps to break down the mental barrier that many people have about feet being ‘dirty’. It’s also really good for you! While your partner is massaging your feet, keep eye contact and let them know that you are enjoying the touch. You can compliment them on their technique or simply relax and enjoy the massage. A foot massage can be a natural introduction to talking about sexual preferences. This can be especially helpful in new relationships when you don’t yet know all of your partner’s preferences. During the massage, you can ask your partner how they feel about the smells or tastes of your feet and whether they are turned on by them. It can be more subtle than asking directly, “What do you like about feet?” as not many men want to openly say they like the smell of feet.
Use your feet during foreplay
During foreplay, you can draw attention to your feet. Your partner might enjoy kissing, licking, caressing or even sucking your toes. He may also want to feel your feet on his face or other parts of his body. Feel free to give your partner precise instructions on how to lick, kiss and suck your toes, similar to oral sex. Use your feet like your hands to explore your lover’s body.
Give your partner a footjob
Foot play doesn’t necessarily have to lead to more, but your partner might like to feel your feet on his cock and balls. If you’re both interested, you can stroke his privates with oiled-up feet, which is known as a footjob. Turn your feet inwards as if you’re praying and press the soles of your feet together as you glide along his hard cock.
Water-based lube usually works best, and a towel should be nearby to wipe it off easily. You don’t want slippery feet that leave stains or cause slipping. If your partner is interested in you inserting a toe into one of their orifices, go slowly and use plenty of lube to avoid cuts or scrapes. Clean feet and toes are important to prevent infection.
Take sexy photos or videos of your feet
Whether you’re living with your foot-loving partner or meeting someone new, a sexy photo or video of your feet will show your partner that you want to turn them on. Photos of your toes from above are good, but your partner might also like angles that include your face and warm light. Natural light or a ring light make a big difference. There are many possible positions: Cross your feet, put them on top of each other or next to each other. Flex your toes, curl them tightly together or point your big toe upwards as a ‘thumbs up’. If your partner likes your feet in high heels, wear a pair that emphasises the gap between your toes.
Your partner might also like it if you show yourself from behind with your bum resting on the soles of your feet. If they prefer videos, they might enjoy watching you spread or curl your toes. Practise different angles and positions to find out what excites your partner. “Pose” for beginners: Lie on your stomach, bend your knees and raise your feet in the air. This way you can show your face while your feet are flirtatiously in the background. Whatever you do, your partner will be thrilled that you’re trying it. It’s about pleasure, not perfection.
Keep in mind
As with all aspects to do with another person’s fetish, don’t expect to know all the details as soon as you start. Your partner will probably be excited (and aroused!) that you’re interested in making his or her fetish a part of your sex life, and you’ll figure out the rest together. Just do your best with every attempt and have fun.
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