Anal sex is hot, no question about it – but why? The male prostate, which is a hazelnut-sized nucleus inside your rectum, plays a role. There is always a debate among women about the existence and possibilities of the G-spot. Does it exist? Does she have it? In men, we know for sure: The prostate exists!
But why is it so often neglected? This erogenous zone can be stimulated not only during sex. The most important tool is always your fingers!
Look at the prostate – the small and often underestimated organ
In the broadest sense, the prostate is not an organ, but a gland. Depending on the man, it is between the size of a hazelnut and a walnut. It is hidden between your rectum and your bladder. Its actual task is not to provide you with sexual satisfaction, but to produce seminal fluid. So the prostate is actually for reproduction. (Source: https://www.mannvital.de/mann-prostata/)
If you have already been to your urologist for a check-up, and he felt your rectum with his finger, the prostate gland was certainly part of the examination. You suddenly got a hard-on when you felt it, even though you weren’t horny? Welcome to the world of the prostate, which can have a direct influence on your cock!
For beginners – the first prostate massage of your life
You’re curious and want to know what all those experienced gays are talking about? The best beginner’s method is a classic prostate massage. With a few contortions, you can perform it on yourself, or you can simply use a prostate vibrator for stimulation.
But let’s assume that you want to get your lover’s sexy ass in gear and need some tips on how to prepare. Voilà, here they come:
- Cut nails and clean hands are mandatory!
- Use a good quality latex glove for hygiene.
- Please ask your partner to go to the toilet or take an anal shower beforehand!
- Pain is always a reason to interrupt or stop.
- Relax, that’s the only way to make the experience hot for both of you
The most comfortable position for your lover is on his back, where he can relax. Even if you can do without a lot: lubricating gel is absolutely necessary for a prostate massage. Before you penetrate his anus with your finger, set the right mood. If you’re both extremely nervous, have some poppers to help you relax and come down.
Prepare him before anal penetration by massaging his rosette. With ample lubricant, gently penetrate without resistance. Curve your finger toward the abdominal wall and explore up to 2.5 to 3.0 cm. Discover the prostate as a soft bulge. Experiment with different types of stimulation, avoiding the sensitive centre. Use hand movements to signal him closer. Additional pleasure can be provided through testicle massage or cock stimulation. Enjoy the possibilities with your partner!
Prostate massage from outside – this way you get yourself and him in the mood
You are not (yet) so far that you want to penetrate him directly? A prostate massage also works from the outside because of the position of the drums. This can be wonderfully integrated into a general massage. The sweet spot, also known as the P-spot, is located between the base of the penis and the anus. Here you can carefully feel a small hollow, and you will notice from his reactions that you are in the right place.
If you touch him here, he may immediately have a hard-on, which is quite normal. Just massaging this point can lead to orgasm for many men. However, you need patience for this, it can take up to 20 minutes or even longer. Many men describe the climax from an indirect prostate massage as less intoxicating, but at the same time much more intense. But honestly, can orgasms be described in words? Just try it!
The fine art of prostate milking – jerking off without orgasm is possible
When you cum and have an orgasm, you’re probably in a lull at first. So, how would you like your cum to flow out of you without losing your erection? This is possible with the technique of prostate milking. Admittedly, it’s not that easy to suppress your orgasm and still get a semen’s ejaculation. With a little practice, however, it works for most men and the erection remains intact.
Milking is nothing more than an intense massage of the prostate until the seminal fluid finally flows out of the small gland. It feels much less intense, more like a pressure relief. Did you know that such prostate stimulation is even supposed to help prevent various male diseases? Of course, we don’t know if this is really the case. But you can find some interesting information and studies on the subject.
Lubricating gel, toys and gloves – this is how prostate massage becomes a highlight
We already agreed that a lubricant is needed for this intense stimulation. You can use water-based gels, but you can also use a silicone-based one. The latter has the advantage that it glides longer, and you don’t have to refill it as often. However, if you use a toy, the silicone in the lubricant can be a problem. In this case, you should rather use a water-based product.
When it comes to gloves, opinions differ. Some men find it more intense when their lover penetrates them without gloves. If you want to play it safe and keep it hygienic, use simple latex gloves. They allow you and your fingers maximum freedom of movement and are thin enough not to mess up the sensations.
To get you started, there are also many prostate toys available. Specially curved dildos or vibrators are designed to directly reach and stimulate the sweet spot. But beware: the sensation can get pretty intense if you’ve never been in direct contact with your or his prostate! These toys are also great if you want to jerk off and get some extra anal stimulation.
Give the prostate more attention – for even more gigantic hot spots
It exists in secret, somewhere deep in your rectum. It is not visible from the outside, and so it is often forgotten. Wrongly so, because the prostate is a guarantee for hot orgasms! Sensual and gentle massages are the best way to get semen without a climax and with lots of intense sensations. There’s not much you can do wrong, just feel your way gently and enjoy.
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