I’m sure you’ve come across many different practices in your adventures. Between blowjob and hardcore BDSM, there are many things to discover that you should not miss (depending on your preference of course!). For many gays, fisting is one of the extremes. Why and what is it? Here are a few questions:
- Do you like to be especially deeply fisted?
- Do you like it when your rear entrance is particularly stimulated?
- Do you like extremes? Have you perhaps already enjoyed some anal play with a giant dildo?
- Or do you like to be on top and look down on the ass that stretches in the air in front of your face?
- Do you think an orgasm is more than just jerking off?
What is fisting during sex?
If you have felt a resounding yes in your pants to several of these questions: You might like it. But: Fisting is one of the more extreme practices that requires preparation. So you should never “just go for it” – Preparation is half the fun. Let’s start from the beginning (or from the back – as you see it): What is it?
What is anal fisting? And what sets the stimulus in it?
To answer the question, “What is it, and where is the appeal in it?” What is fisting, and what is the incentive? Let’s look at it from an anatomical point of view: Did you know that the area around the rosette up to about 5 cm into the anal canal has the highest nerve density on your body? That’s exactly why the buttocks are considered an erogenous zone. If you like anal play in general, your butt has certainly already had its money’s worth thanks to dildos, plugs and the like.
Fisting is another way to stimulate the anus, but a little more “pronounced”. What is the difference between fisting and other anal displays? Instead of a dildo or individual fingers, the hand is inserted at the back and formed into a fist on the inside, depending on the desire. Accordingly, not only the rosette is penetrated, but also the rectum and part of the intestine. So you can reach places that are simply not accessible with a conventional cock.
What does it mean? The word fisting is derived from the English, fist means fist. Alternatively, there are also terms like fistfucking or handballing.
How to fist properly – different techniques & preferences for playing with the fist
When it comes to the question “What is fisting”, there is no clear definition. First and foremost, it is anal intercourse with the fist, but here there are many different variations, depending on preference. Because for some, the fist is not enough. And then?
- Instead of one, two fists lead to hallelujah. But: More can be better, but it doesn’t have to be. The rosette sets the tone.
- Wide instead of deep – when punching, the anus is penetrated by boxes. Definitely not for beginners and definitely associated with health risks.
- My way, my way: Of course, mutual fisting is also possible. And who says that it only works in pairs?
- Fist & Fuck – this is also possible, but it involves a bit of exercise. Next to or in the fist, the cock can also be inserted.
Important for all kinds of sex with fist: accept physical (own) limits (not every rosette likes big fists!), and in any case prepare well for the session. You can find many helpful fisting tips in our Community Zone.
Myths, prejudices & Co. – Come on!
As is often the case with sex and fetish, there are also many prejudices and myths about fisting and sex. If you still dream about fisting but haven’t experienced it yourself, don’t let it put you off. Fisting doesn’t have to be dirty, nor does it make you incontinent. If you really want to play with your fist, gather your own experiences. You can find forums and fisting clubs online where you can find partners with the same preferences.
How does fisting work?
When it comes to what fisting is, the “how” can’t be far away, either. So how do you fist? First: not overnight. While it seems martial to some, it is a real turn-on for others. Nevertheless, you shouldn’t go too fast with your first fisting, because of course fisting is also associated with risks. So before you start practising, get yourself informed or hire an experienced fister who will introduce you to the subject and know what he is doing.
How does fisting – active and passive role
Bottom or Top?
In fisting there is also an important question: Do you want to be active or passive?
What is the active part when fisting?
The active part takes over fisting; as a fister, you have more tasks. Prepare your partner’s anus with gentle penetration and relaxation. Gradually stretch the anus with fingers or toys. Alternatively, dildos and butt plugs can do the trick for you. All this, of course, always in conjunction with lube and under hygienic conditions (gloves are a must!). Millimetre by millimetre, you insert your hand deeper into your partner. When you slide in, you can clench your hand into a fist. Once you’re in, you can take fist sex to the extreme with different kinds of penetration.
What is the passive part of fisting?
You just can’t shake off that hand? Your ass wants to be fisted? Then take the passive role in fisting and let yourself be turned on. You should also prepare for your ass party, for example with an anal douching. This is how you cleanse your bowels before your fist enters you. Make sure you have a lubricant you can rely on and create an environment where you and your sphincter can fully let go. Although you are in the passive position, you can take the lead: Guide the fist, tell your partner what you want and above all: when it’s too much. Only in this way can fisting be a horny experience for both of you.
In our Community Zone you can get even more information about your first fisting, what fisting means for the psyche and generally what is important when fisting.
Right fisting with orgasm – does that work?
What is fisting – does it go with orgasm? The question is justified, after all, “only” fist and anus are involved. Not everyone comes here to the classic cum, sometimes a hard cock is fisted, even limp – but this is completely normal. After all, you feel much more in your anal region than on your cock. Orgasm is not always characterised by squirting – many describe anal orgasm as the highest level of sexual arousal. So: Be curious!
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