Many homosexual or bisexual men use the services of male escorts. The reasons are as diverse as the offer. Nevertheless, male sex work is hardly discussed in public. Although it exists everywhere, in the province as well as in big metropolises. Often there is simply no awareness of the existence of these boys and men. Or there is simply a lack of interest in this topic. More attention for both sides, i.e. the escorts and you as a customer, would be eminently important. Because it is also true here that what happens in secret brings dangers with it. We give you a few tips on what can make the adventure safer and more pleasurable for both you and the sexy escort.
Discretion is the trump card, also with escorts
There may always be black sheep, but the vast majority of escorts adhere to the unwritten law of the greatest possible discretion. Even when they first make contact, for example when visiting a club or bar, these men do not immediately talk about the conditions of a pay date. Very often, they first exchange e-mail addresses or telephone numbers with potential customers and postpone the actual arrangement until later. This preserves privacy.
But discretion should also work the other way round. Sometimes escort and former client meet by chance in public. In such a case, you should at most make eye contact and simply move on if the escort does not show in any way that he is approachable. It would also be stupid with the unsuspecting granny on your arm. If you want to arrange a new date, you can use his contact details.
The same applies, by the way, if you discover an escort you have already booked under a different name on a social media platform. In this case, too, refrain from writing to him there, he does not have his escort accounts on other websites for nothing.
Negotiate hourly rate beforehand
Most escorts now work with accounts on corresponding websites or apps. The internet is therefore becoming increasingly important for the initiation of “pay dates“. This not only makes it much easier to make contact, but also to come to an agreement. The price per hour, night or day is also stated on many profiles. If you are looking for an escort online, you should first read the profile completely before you start an enquiry. This will give you a lot of information, such as whether the chosen one practices sex with or without a condom (i.e. bareback), whether meetings take place in a hotel or at his place and much more. If no prices are given, it makes sense to ask in the first message.
This will save you unpleasant surprises. In addition, you have the chat history in case there should be disagreements about the fee later on. If a price is mentioned in the profile of the escort, assume that it is non-negotiable. You should definitely pay the agreed price, because the escort has provided a service and rightly wants to be paid. If you refuse to pay, it can also become uncomfortable.
Agreeing on the duration of the meeting
Escorts report again and again that there are disputes with clients about time planning because an hourly rate was mentioned but no agreement was made about the duration. Normally your counterpart will bring up the subject, but if he forgets, you should explicitly state how long you would like to be with him. What you should avoid is haggling with the argument that you have an “inner connection”. This does not work with escorts, just like the motto that such a meeting is just a job, nothing more.
Say what you want the escort to do for you
Especially if you are using the services of an escort for the first time, you are probably unsure what is possible and what is not. Don’t be shy, but formulate your wishes clearly. This helps the escort to decide whether he will meet with you. For example, if you like to be pampered in a playroom, a meeting can only take place if the man has such a room available.
If the escort refuses certain practices, be respectful and don’t try to persuade him just because you find him totally sexy. Some sex fantasies just can’t be lived out with certain people. Just keep searching until you find an escort who can give you what you want.
Do not bring friends without asking
If you have arranged a date with an escort, don’t get the idea of bringing a friend if it was not agreed upon. If you suddenly feel like a threesome, write to the escort well in advance, confirm the possibility of an escort and renegotiate the conditions. The price will change, because professionally entertaining two men is of course more work.
It is also good manners to cancel an arranged date in good time if you are prevented from going. You should also inform the escort of any delays, as the next client may already be waiting for you. A date with a sought-after escort cannot usually simply be postponed.
Protect yourself and the escort
Health should always be a priority in any sexual activity. The risk of contracting STIs (sexually transmitted diseases) during anal intercourse, fisting or sucking is too great. For this reason, it makes sense to clarify with the escort in advance whether he or she is healthy, just like you. Many escorts have themselves tested regularly for HIV, hepatitis and other diseases and are in possession of the corresponding certificates.
The sticking point, however, are the numerous clients with whom escorts have sexual intercourse. It cannot always be guaranteed that they are healthy. Ideally, you should only practice “safe sex” with the escort. A precautionary treatment with PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis), or TaP (treatment as prevention), can also protect you and the escort from HIV and ensure that you can practice extensive anal play without condoms during your paydate. However, condoms still offer the best protection.
Rate and recommend good service
When the date with the escort is over, you can still do something good for him afterwards. Many users read reviews given by previous clients. If you were satisfied with the services of the escort, if you felt well taken care of, taken seriously and got your money’s worth with poppers up your nose, write a correspondingly positive review.
Recommendations are also always welcome from escorts. Nothing is as effective as word of mouth. Tell good friends about your escort experience and pass on the contact details to them. This way, others can also enjoy a pay date and the escort can increase his cash. However, only give such information to people who you can be sure will handle it as carefully as you do.
Some escorts also offer the possibility to refer one of their colleagues to you, for example in case of special wishes on your part. But be careful: Ask beforehand whether they charge a fee for such a referral and if so, how much it would be.
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