If you want to surrender yourself helpless, tied up and aroused, then the large repertoire of BDSM is sure to have something for you. Right in its first letter, “B” – like Bondage. Bondage can be an exciting and sensual experience if you and your partner are interested in exploring your erotic boundaries. This guide for beginners provides all the important information you need to carry out bondage safely and effectively. Various kink bondage positions are presented. And it is explained what you should pay attention to in order to offer your partner a safe. And pleasurable experience – helpless, tied up and aroused!
The world of bondage sex and play is as diverse as your own imagination. The main thing is to be helpless, tied up and aroused.
Various rope techniques
There are rope techniques that can be used in different ways:
- Pain bondage: In this form, the bound person’s body is either fixed in a certain position. Or materials and techniques are used that are painful. This is used either for punishment or for satisfaction.
- Purposeful bondage: The aim of purposeful bondage is to achieve the motionless restraint of the submissive partner without focussing on complicated knots or aesthetic aspects. Other BDSM practices such as spanking are also often used here.
- Suspension bondage: In this technique, the bound partner is either partially or completely lifted into the air and attached to the ceiling. This intensive and risky practice is more suitable for advanced users. Experienced bondage artists and their models can often be found at events or shows. Where they stage exciting and dramatic bondage scenes.
- Bondage fashion: Ropes can be used in many different ways! They can also be used as accessories or adornments, for example as breast restraints or in diamond patterns.
- Selfbondage: Bondage is not only intended for couples, but can also be used alone to explore and intensively feel your own emotions and body.
- Shibari and Kinbaku: Shibari is a special form of artistic restraint that originated in Japan. In addition to the function of restricting movement, Shibari focuses in particular on the aesthetics of the bound body and the wrapped ropes. Shibari can also be free of lust and purely artistic. When it comes to the sexual aspect, it is referred to as kinbaku.
Bondage positions: The basics – sex bondage & submission
It is a sexual practice in which restraints and knots are used to restrict a partner’s freedom of movement and thereby increase sexual tension – helpless, bound and aroused. Bondage positions are different body positions that are used to present your bound lover in a certain way or to make certain parts of the body accessible. In this section, we will introduce you to 4 of the most commonly used bondage positions.
Ebi (Shrimp Tie)
This tied up position originates from the Japanese art of bondage, Shibari. The passive partner sits on the floor with their legs crossed. The arms are tied together behind the back and the legs are attached to the arms with a rope or restraint. This creates a crouched position reminiscent of a cooked shrimp. Make sure that your partner does not remain in this position for too long to avoid injury or discomfort.
Ball tie
The ball tie is another popular bondage position in which the passive partner is moulded into a kind of ball. He sits on the floor and pulls his legs bent and against his chest. The arms are tied together behind the back, and the legs are also secured with ropes or shackles. In this position, the bound partner can be lightly tickled, stroked or otherwise stimulated.
Chartie
In the Chairtie position, the passive partner is tied up sitting on a chair. The arms and legs can either be attached to the chair legs or backrest, or tied together behind the back. This position offers many possibilities for stimulation and role play and is ideal for beginners.
Rug Beater
The rug beater, also known as the rug beater, is a position in which the passive partner lies on the floor with their legs in the air and their feet above their head. The arms can be tied either to the legs or behind the back. In this position, the bound partner is open to stimulation, especially spanking or other forms of impact play.
Lotus
This position is a relaxed and comfortable bondage position that is well suited for longer sessions. The passive partner sits on the floor with their legs crossed, similar to meditation. The arms are tied up together behind the back, and the legs can be secured with a rope or restraint. This position allows for intimate touching and stimulation while the partner remains relaxed and calm.
Suspension Bondage
Suspension bondage is an advanced technique in which the bound partner is suspended in the air. This requires special care and experience, as the partner’s body weight rests on the restraints and knots, which can lead to injuries. If you are interested in trying out suspension bondage, we recommend attending workshops or courses with experienced instructors to develop the necessary skills and
Reverse Prayer
The Reverse Prayer position is a more demanding bondage position that requires flexibility. The passive partner stands or sits while the palms are placed together behind the back in a prayer position and fixed in place. In this position, the shoulders and upper body of the bound partner are open to stimulation and touch.
BDSM fetishes and sexual fantasies – but safely, please!
In order to make your bondage experiences exciting and safe, it is important to use high-quality accessories and suitable products. Here are some recommended items to complete your bondage equipment:
- Bondage ropes: Choose soft yet sturdy cotton or jute ropes that are comfortable on the skin and hold tight. It is advisable to have ropes of different lengths and diameters available to try out different techniques and positions.
- Cuffs: Leather, imitation leather or neoprene cuffs are practical additions to your bondage equipment. They are easy to put on and can be removed quickly if necessary. Handcuffs and ankle cuffs are also helpful for trying out different positions quickly and easily.
- Gags: Gags such as ball gags, but gags or fabric gags, can intensify the bondage experience. Search for a suitable gag for your partner and the desired experience.
- Blindfolds and masks: Depriving your partner of sight can increase the sensuality and excitement of bondage. Use a soft and comfortable blindfold or mask to make this sensual experience possible for your partner.
- Protective padding: Protective padding is important to avoid pressure points or injuries to sensitive areas of the body such as wrists, ankles or the neck. There are special bondage pads, but soft materials such as foam or towels can also be used.
- Cutting tool: Always have a cutting tool to hand so that you can cut ropes or restraints quickly in an emergency. Safety scissors or a cutting tool with a rounded tip are ideal.
- Hooks and attachment points: Use sturdy hooks and attachment points to securely fix bondage positions and support your partner’s weight.
Choosing the right accessories and products allows you to enjoy safe and pleasurable bondage experiences. Experiment with different materials and techniques to find out what works best for you and your partner.
BDSM Fantasies – Sexual Submission Psychology – Are there fears of losing control in sexuality & what can be done about it?
Fear of losing control of your sexuality is not everyone’s cup of tea, and it’s especially difficult at the beginning. One reason could be previous negative experiences in which control over your own sexuality was violated. It could also be related to certain fears or insecurities that the exercise of power and control in a sexual relationship can bring. In order to overcome these fears, it is important that there is trust and communication in the relationship.
Open and honest conversations about desires, boundaries and fantasies are crucial to understanding each other and ensuring that all parties are in agreement. Setting safewords or signals can also help to communicate control and boundaries and ensure that there is mutual understanding at all times. In addition, the degree of control and submission can be slowly increased. By proceeding cautiously and gradually giving up or taking more control, you can reduce anxiety and gradually get used to the fantasies.
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