Fisting Bottom Guide – So you’re ready to feel a fist in your arse and surrender to your fisting lover. You need to realise one thing – fisting as a bottom is not fucking! You can’t just have a fist shoved up your arse without the right preparation. It will take a while before you are able to take the entire fist inside you and not feel any pain. There are heaps of training options, we’ll tell you how to become a ‘bottom’ for all fisting lovers.
Start fisting and preparing yourself
For fisting lovers, there’s nothing hotter than the moment when your lover’s fist slides deep into your arse. But until you get that far, you need training, training, training. It’s best to start by fisting yourself. This will help you to learn to judge your hole better, and can try out different stretching methods. You can find lots of fisting toys on the market that will make it easier for you to get started and prevent you from bending your wrists. We have five key tips for you on how to prepare for your first session (with the toy).
1. Stretch before you use the large toy
You can find XL fisting toys on the market that can be bigger than a classic fist. Before you experiment with them, make sure you stretch. Use an anal plug to slowly and gently get the ring muscle used to the upcoming fist. You can wear it several times a day, even when you’re out and about. Ideally, you should get several plugs in different diameters to stretch your anus bit by bit. Once you are completely relaxed, you can then try your own fist or a large toy.
2. Clean yourself to avoid dirt
Where there are wood shavings, but faeces on a toy is not everyone’s cup of tea. It doesn’t have to be, because a previous anal shower ensures cleanliness and hygiene. Use a time when you have just been to the toilet and defecated. Now you can rinse the residue out of the canal with the anal douche and then wash yourself thoroughly again. This is just as important for self-fisting as it is for fisting with your partner.
3. Find a position in which you are comfortable
Comfort is the be-all and end-all if you want to fist yourself. Try out which position you feel most comfortable in. Some men like to be in a four-footed position, while others like to lie on their side or back and raise their legs.
Tip: A cushion under your bum puts your lower body in a practical position. You can reach your hole more comfortably and don’t have to strain so much.
4. Relax before you overcome your gate
If you are tense and nervous, it will be difficult to penetrate your arse. If you’re not alone, use poppers for a hot rush. They ensure that you only think about the hot kick and not about the possible pain when fisting. The time factor is very important. Don’t put yourself under pressure and don’t try fisting as a bottom ‘between door and door’. You should be on your own (or with your partner) and not be disturbed by the doorbell, phone calls or other incidents.
A little tip: put on some music. The sounds distract your thoughts, and you can focus more on the here and now. Deep house and jazz are among the most popular fisting genres. Avoid techno, it might be a little too fast.
5. Stop if you feel pain during penetration
If you are overstretched, it will be painful. Fisting is a process and if you feel pain, you’ve made a mistake somewhere. You may be too tense and concentrating too hard on the impending pain. Stop immediately and don’t try to force the obstacle. Before you continue, stimulate your cock and balls and get yourself in a horny and relaxed mood. Fisting doesn’t always work the first time, and there’s no shame in that.
Fisting as a bottom with your partner – prepare yourself properly
Do you have no problem indulging in fisting yourself or satisfying yourself with fisting toys? At some point, you’ll probably want to give in to your top and let him conquer your arse. Before you make this request or give in to his wishes, check yourself. Do you want it? Then do it! If you don’t want it, don’t do it. Even as a bottom, you are under no obligation to let him fist you.
Communication is the be-all and end-all. Unlike when fucking, you should always be able to tell him if something is bothering you and if he needs to do something differently. Listen to ‘your hole’, because it will let you know if something is wrong.
An intensive connection with your top is also important. He should know you and be able to tell you when you’re tensing up or suddenly don’t want something any more. Make a safeword that you can use to end the game immediately. Only get involved in the session if you really want to.
What you need for fisting with your top
Fisting as a Bottom needs to be prepared. Don’t decide to do it spontaneously, because it’s too intense for that. The most important utensils include
- Anal douche
- Waterproof sheet
- Silicone-based lubricant
- Gloves
Make sure your lover takes care of his fingers before you let him near your arsehole. You are responsible for preparing your lucky hole, and he is responsible for his fingernails. There’s no room for discussion here – he has to use the nail scissors and file the corners smooth. Injuries to the anus are unpleasant and a risk of infection. Cut your nails short and wear latex gloves to prevent injury.
Before you start, talk to him about your expectations and clearly define your boundaries. Don’t start with a fist straight away. It’s his job to gently stretch your arsehole and prepare you for the big moment with various toys or several fingers. Relax and let him take the lead. If you can’t take any more, tell him.
Conclusion: As the bottom, you have more power than you thought
Although your ‘top’ is the boss, you have no less power as the bottom. You decide what happens, when it happens and for how long. You are obliged to voice your problems, otherwise your top won’t know what you like. Get involved in the experiment and don’t forget that you set the rules of the game.
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