In our fast-paced world, everything has to be efficient, take up little time and still bring maximum satisfaction. Even during sex. A quickie here, a quickie there – it all gets boring after a while. Do you want more than just the “well-rehearsed”, quick sex with (your) partner? Then simply prolong the journey to a hot climax. Here you’ll find the most important tips for stimulating prelude.
What foreplay is for
Extended foreplay is primarily used to get to know your partner’s body better and discover their erogenous zones. It’s also a good opportunity to find out what he particularly likes or what he’s not into at all. Another effect of foreplay is, of course, to fan the flames of lust for each other. And create anticipation for a tangy, more intense climax. Overall, foreplay increases the intimacy between you. It’s not for nothing that some men find good foreplay much more erotic than actual sex.
Basic rule: whatever pleases both/all is allowed
In order for a foreplay to fulfil its purpose and increase the anticipation of everyone involved for what follows in the “main act”. It must of course please everyone who takes part. As a matter of principle, you should remove all inhibitions, as they could put the brakes on your joy of experimentation. You should also remain authentic in everything you do during foreplay and not, for example, try to excite your partner by copying practices from porn that you don’t actually like. It also makes sense to always make sure that everyone feels comfortable. And can go along with you, despite all your fantasies and freedom. When you are with your partner(s), pay attention to their verbal and non-verbal reactions, as they will tell you whether they like what you are doing or whether it is time to try something else.
Increase your giving
An old saying goes that good comedians don’t tell their best joke right at the beginning. But present it at the end of the show, as a kind of climax. You should do the same with foreplay and not go all out right at the beginning. Otherwise, you and your partner will miss out on the feeling of escalation. Instead, start as slowly as possible and increase your activities step by step. Then the foreplay is like an exciting thriller in which the reader looks forward to every further chapter until the end.
So that everyone can enjoy it – Take turns with the foreplay
The foreplay is an event between several participants. To ensure that everyone gets their money’s worth, it makes sense to take turns giving and receiving. Ideally, it’s also fun to pleasure your partner. But you should also enjoy it yourself when your partner explores your body with their hands, tongue or lips, stimulates your erogenous zones and arouses you. Foreplay is just like in a relationship, both live from mutual give and take.
Always a clean affair – hygiene during foreplay too
In order to enjoy a relaxed and sexually stimulating foreplay, you should pay attention to personal hygiene. If you’re not both fans of sniffing worn socks or worn underwear or have a passion for sweat or odour-intensive games, a shower before foreplay is a good idea. Many find it pleasant to warm up a body that smells good. What is allowed, however, is so-called “dirty talk” during foreplay. It can also help to increase pleasure.
Sexual ebb and flow – withdrawal shortly before the climax
The tides live from high and low water levels, from the forwards and backwards of the water. You can also utilise this principle of ebb and flow during foreplay, as this is also about building up tension with the help of erotic activities. The wave principle works here, for example, by slowly but steadily bringing your partner closer to orgasm with your actions. For example, if you spoil him with a blowjob, you bring him to the point of no return a few times with your mouth, then stop and concentrate on other things.
For example, you can kiss him or stroke his body until his best part has calmed down a little. Then the wild ride in your mouth starts all over again. This is a very arousing method, and he won’t forget this prelude in a hurry. If you then let him smell some good poppers just before the actual orgasm, he’ll squirt his hot cum so much that you might have to clean the room afterwards.
Cuffing during foreplay – Exciting power games
It is well known that people who have a lot of power in their professional lives, for example as managing directors or CEOs of companies, like to submit during sex and cede the power they have in everyday life to their sexual partners. You can use this characteristic for an exciting foreplay by fixing your partner with appropriate cuff toys. Then he is completely at the mercy of your activities and is forced to enjoy your foreplay. The whole thing should remain playful, and the restraints should only be tight enough to make him feel comfortable at all times. It can be enormously stimulating when you are powerless and helpless at the mercy of the exploring senses. It is extremely erotic not to be able to resist a blowjob or rimming.
Tongue games – foreplay of a special kind
Few things can give such tender touches as the tongue. That’s why using it during foreplay is actually a matter of course. Whether you’re kissing with your tongue, exploring your partner’s body or working on their erogenous zones, the tongue is one of the most important tools in foreplay alongside your hands and sex toys. Not only can you use it to heat your partner’s cock, you can also use it to prepare for anal sex later on. If you carefully lick the base of his butt crack, work your way up to the hidden opening and play around it tenderly with your tongue, penetrating a little and teasing him, he will eventually send you a signal that he would like to have you deep inside him, preferably with your hard cock.
Delicious foreplay – cream, honey and co.
The prelude should whet your appetite for more. You can take this literally and turn your foreplay into an appetiser for the actual sex. There are few things more erotic than ravishing your partner with your tongue and kissing them passionately. Add flavour to your explorations with your tongue and your kisses. All you have to do is spray your partner’s body with cream or drizzle with honey beforehand. You can then lick both off his body and then eat him, so you both get something out of it. A very erotic idea where there are no limits to your imagination as to which treats you can use.
Safety is key, even during foreplay
It’s not so much a tip as a matter of course that you don’t forget your safety and his safety, no matter how erotic the foreplay. This is especially true if you are with someone you don’t know very well or who you know has changing sexual partners. What you can do without during foreplay and sex with a monogamous partner is something you should never leave out, namely condoms. They may not be absolutely necessary during foreplay, but at the latest when the foreplay culminates in anal sex, they should be where they belong, on your plump cocks.
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