Are you interested in your first time having anal sex but have never enjoyed it? Then first of all be aware that there is no universal guide to problem-free, pleasurable anal sex. There are simply too many different men. And therefore too many different ideas about what is pleasurable and what is not. In this article, you will find out what is important in anal sex for beginners. And what you should pay special attention to so that it is a really pleasurable experience for you.
What is anal sex at all, and which “types of play” are there?
Although it sounds a bit vulgar, the word assfucking probably best describes what anal sex between men is all about. Namely, the sexual satisfaction of the passive partner through the insertion of the cock by the active partner. There are many different types of play. For example, some like a hard ride in which they are really taken, or their partner is taken really hard. Others prefer the soft version of anal sex, i.e. the slow, leisurely sliding in and out. Often combined with other delicacies. The most important prerequisite for anal sex that gives both sides what they want is that the partners agree on a common denominator in terms of what is possible, despite their different personal wishes and desires.
First time anal sex: good preparation is everything!
To make sure that your first anal intercourse is really remembered as a pleasurable experience and awakens the anticipation of further adventures, you should make a few preparations for your first anal sex. This applies especially to the topics of cleanliness and stretching the anus. To describe it with a picture. Firstly, it is more pleasant to get into a clean car than to get dirty in a car while driving. Secondly, it makes sense not to just brutally break the window to open the car and get in. But to unlock the door and get into the car without breaking it.
Anal hygiene: How do I get the butt clean for anal sex?
Since anal sex is about sexually stimulating yourself or your partner by inserting a cock, plug or other sex toy into the anus, it should of course be clean when it’s time to get down to business. It is well known that the anus is primarily there for other things. So it is important to clean it as well as possible before sex. For the former, all you need to do is take a shower, while the latter works best with anal showers. These are a very gentle and pleasant way to ensure that anal sex doesn’t result in a dirty cock or dirty toys.
Anal showers can simply be screwed onto the shower hose instead of the normal shower head. But they are also available with a balloon that is filled with water, made more slippery with a little lube. Inserted into the anus, let the lukewarm water then flow in with not too much pressure. When you feel that enough water has run and pressure has built up, you can simply get rid of it in the toilet. Including what you don’t want to be left on your cock or toys later. After two or three repetitions, your most intimate parts will be well flushed and perfectly prepared for anal sex between men. Simply a clean thing!
Analsex for beginners: Why stretch the anus before the first time?
Normally, the anus is there to pass things out of the body. To prevent this from happening uncontrollably, there is an ingenious device, namely the ring-shaped sphincter muscles, which prevent this. But anal sex is about getting something from the outside in. And here the sphincters prove to be a bit of an obstacle on the way to ecstatic pleasure. But don’t worry, there are ways to provide relaxation in the right places.
The tools of choice can be either your fingers (or your partner’s) or very exciting sex toys that can prepare you for your first time anal. When it comes to erotic toys, you can choose between small (or even larger) helpers. For example, dildos, plugs or similar stimulating toys. They help to stretch the anus and prepare it for horny anal play.
To avoid pain during stretching, you should work your way from smaller to larger toys. Stretching the anus takes effort, but you will find that with each stretch there is more room. This preparation is considered by many couples to be quite arousing foreplay. At the end of the day, it’s more relaxed and hornier to fuck when you’re well stretched out!
Important: Especially if you or your sex partner have never had anal sex before, you should take enough time for stretching!
Why is anal sex so hot?
Anal sex is perceived as stimulating mainly because a large number of nerve endings converge at the anus. In addition, anal intercourse intensively stimulates the male prostate. It is considered a man’s G-spot and when it is stimulated by a cock or a sex toy, it often ends in a grandiose orgasm.
Another reason for the popularity of anal sex is the fact that the partners merge with each other, so to speak, and for many it is a very stimulating idea to feel the partner inside them or to penetrate them deeply and to reach climax inside them. Especially in committed relationships, the condom is not used during anal sex because the sensation of ejaculation is enjoyed by both partners. Important for your health: If you have anal sex with a partner you don’t know or hardly know, you should always use a condom. This reduces the risk of contracting an STI, such as HIV, hepatitis, gonorrhoea, syphilis or whatever they are all called.
Should you force yourself to have anal sex?
Sex with your partner should be fun above all. For this reason, it makes sense to practice anal sex or sexual activities in general only when you really feel like it. Especially when it comes to anal sex, there are simply days when it works well and days when nothing works. This can be due to stress at work or at home, for example, or if you are very excited about having anal sex for the first time. If this is the case, simply wait until the desire returns. So if you feel that nothing is going to work today, don’t force it, otherwise anal sex will be no fun, will satisfy neither you nor your partner, and will ultimately be remembered as a cramp.
How to make the first time anal a horny experience?
There are many different factors that determine whether or not the two of you can really relax and surrender during your first assfucking. This includes above all:
- the right chemistry between the sex partners
- Trust on both sides
- sufficient time
- a quiet place
- a stimulating environment
- the right tools (e.g. lube, sex toys, poppers)
Chemistry is key for enjoyable anal sex. Trust is crucial, particularly for beginners, to ensure that both partners engage in activities they enjoy. The passive partner should have the most say. Allow ample time for the first experience. Quickies can be pleasurable later on, but time pressure is a hindrance during initial anal sex.
Choosing a suitable location is crucial. Avoid engaging in anal sex for the first time in public toilets or changing rooms. To make the experience unforgettable, create a comfortable setting with music, candles, and a celebratory drink. A small amount of alcohol can help relax the passive partner. Poppers can be used for further relaxation and to minimize discomfort.
For first-time anal sex, sufficient time is crucial. It’s important to allocate enough time for preparation, stretching, and rimming of the anus. Rimming, which involves gentle licking and careful penetration with the tongue, can relax the anus and enhance anticipation. Saliva provides a slight lubrication effect.
What many people tend to forget is to provide aids. Especially lube, condoms and cups, but also dildos or anal plugs in different sizes and poppers should always be at hand.
Poppers, the popular scent in small bottles, relaxes and intensifies pleasure. Sniffing poppers increases horniness, facilitates smooth entry and exit, and leads to a described as phenomenal and intense orgasm. As a passive partner, you’ll feel your sex partner’s climax inside you. Don’t skimp on lube to avoid injury.
Which position is the best for anal sex?
This question cannot be answered in a general way. Especially the first anal sex should be designed in such a way that it is as pleasant and comfortable as possible for you as a passive partner. Therefore, it can make sense for you to take the lead, so to speak, by riding on your partner’s cock. This position has the advantage that you decide how fast your partner underneath you penetrates you and how hard he thrusts. Once you are „broken in“ and your anus has become accustomed to the size of his cock, you can try out other positions in which you hand over the guiding role to him and simply enjoy the feeling of his cock inside you to the fullest.
For example, you can lie on your back, stretch your butt out on your stomach or kneel in front of your partner in a doggy position. Then he can decide how to get down to business. In these positions, most of the responsibility lies with the active partner, because you’re sticking your butt out at him and letting him fuck you the way he wants, always knowing what you like and don’t like, of course.
What is crucial for a horny experience is both of your ability to understand anal sex as give and take, to find a balance between submission and dominance and thus to enable an erotic experience of letting go and ecstasy. Your very first anal sex as a couple will succeed when you discover all its pleasurable aspects and the different anal sex variations together.
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