The area around the rosette is an erogenous zone. And even though many straight men haven’t had a taste for anal sex and are quick to condemn it, we know how much fun it can be. And they don’t know what they’re missing. Penetration of the anus and rectum not only gives you horny sensations, but can even bring on an anal orgasm. The crown of anal sex.
How do I stretch my hole properly? We’ll tell you!
Of course there are two sides: As a bottom you offer your hole, submit and are ready for finger, cock or anal toy. As a top, you not only have a nice view, but also the best position for an “extended” fuck. And especially with the desire for big toys, the anal stretching is indispensable. Moreover, it is not only a means to an end, but also heats up the prelude to the great adventure.
Let’s get started – all about anal stretching for soft and hard penetration between the buttocks. No matter if you can’t say no to the fist in front of you, or if you’re in the mood for a classic anal fuck again, with the anal stretching you open the door to adventure land.
Well stretched is half fucked – why anal stretching is so important
Talking about adventure land: There is a lot to discover around the butt, surely you have already had a taste for some anal play yourself. Tastes good? After the anal stretching, the fuck is the main course – what’s your dessert? Before we get that far, let’s start with the basics.
Although anal play in men is insanely arousing, it also has a lot to do with relaxation. For a better understanding, here’s a little digression on anatomy of the buttocks:
The anus and its rosette are key players in anal play. Deep in the rectum lies the main event. As an explorer or bottom, there’s excitement to be found. Let’s focus on the sphincter muscle for now. It helps control your bowel movements. The external sphincter can be consciously controlled, while the inner sphincter requires relaxation for stretching.
Prior to inserting fingers and toys, it’s crucial to relax the sphincter. Proper anal stretching prepares your hole for pleasurable experiences. Embrace the heat and anticipation. The possibilities await!
Anal wide – every rosette has its own limits
How far can you stretch the anus? There is no blanket answer to this question. We are all different. That also applies to the rosette and the sphincter. Not every hole is ready to accept a giant dildo. And not every ass can be fisted really hard. And that’s perfectly okay, no one is worth more or less because of the amount of anal play that is possible. Every butt is the entrance to a private party on your own terms. Make sure you don’t go too far with anal stretching either. Accept the physical limits of yourself or the bottom in front of you and take what you can get.
It is part of it that the anus stretching is a little painful sometimes. And let’s be honest: This pain can also be horny and make you very hot. Nevertheless, you should pay close attention to your ass or the reaction of your partner in front of you. After all, anal dilation involves dilating the sphincter muscle. When muscles are stretched, tiny tears form in the individual strands. With normal stretching, these simply grow back together and there are usually no problems. But if you always overdo it, in the long run you have to reckon with hardened tissue in the anus – and that causes problems in the long run when fisting and the like. So if you want long-lasting hot anal sex, gentle stretching is important. In short, just don’t push it too hard too fast, especially with extreme practices.
The principle of anal stretching – from the little finger to the whole hand
To prepare yourself for anal sex with stretching, it doesn’t really take much at all. Basically, it’s about stretching and opening the sphincter muscle more and more so that it can willingly accept the cock for fucking.
- Start by massaging the anus and perineum during foreplay. Put some spit on your fingers or use a portion of lube.
- Now it’s time for gentle fingering. You can use a finger to penetrate the hole at the beginning and to penetrate the anus a little from the inside. When you’re winding yourself up, just feel what feels good and whether you want more. If you have the ass in front of you as a top, you will quickly notice from your partner’s reaction whether more is wanted. While some start their party at the back with blues, others are quickly in rave mode. Find your tempo.
- Then you can insert two fingers at the same time for anal stretching. Then three, then four and so on. The party can begin.
So the principle of anal dilation is simple: increase the diameter slowly but surely. You can find detailed instructions on anal stretching before your first anal sex in our Community Zone!
Open Sesame – Pre-stretch anus with plugs, dildos and co.
With your fingers, you can pre-stretch the anal area and prepare the sphincter muscle for bigger things. But fingers are not the only option. There are many sex toys that can make anal foreplay even hotter and also stretch better or more than your fingers:
- Butt plugs come in various sizes, shapes, and are designed to stretch the anus easily. Use lubricant for smooth insertion, whether alone or with a partner. Leave the plug in place to allow the sphincter muscle to adjust. It can also be worn during sexual activities for added pleasure. Enjoy your own personal party!
- Dildos are a hot toy and a realistic equivalent to a cock. Small diameter dildos are perfect for the initial stretching and preparation for the real ass fuck. Many of our dildos are equipped with a suction cup and are therefore also ideal if you feel like a hard ride during solo sex.
- Anal Specula fall under the category BDSM and Medical Games. If you like role-playing games, they are a special way to prepare for anal sex. Some of them can not only stretch the butt hole, but also literally hold the butt open for you, so that the dildo can follow directly behind. The advantage of the specula is that they are infinitely adjustable. So you can gently and safely anal stretch.
Dildos and butt plugs come in a conical shape for easy anal stretching. Use lube when stretching – spit is not enough. These tools are suitable for prepping for anal sex. For more, additional items are needed.
Additional tools: Support anal dilation with spray
Are you up for an extreme anal stretch? In addition to the toys, other practical aids can help you on your way to opening up. Anal sprays support the relaxation of the sphincter muscle and can sometimes even have a slightly numbing effect. Some sprays, on the other hand, provide additional tingling and can drive your horniness even more to the peak.
If you want the whole fist: stretch the sphincter muscles before fisting
Fisting is a special challenge for some rosettes. If it has only taken up the dick so far, a whole fist can be difficult without the right anal stretching. That’s why it’s especially important to fisting: slow is the new hot. Relaxation is the key to inserting a whole fist, otherwise the sphincter muscle will shut down. With XXL butt plugs, you can prepare an ass for a fist. Also, giant dildos are a hot option and a good foretaste for the anus on the fist. For everything to do with fisting and BDSM, anal stretching is a must in preparation, you should not take this lightly to avoid possible injuries.
Anal stretching in men – the way is the goal
You should not see anal dilation only as a means to an end. Sure, the anal fuck is the cherry on top of the cream – but even the cream can be pretty sweet. With the right technique, anal stretching can quickly turn into a pretty hot affair that will leave you and your partner in ecstasy. Not everyone is only interested in the inner filling when fucking through the butt, for many the stretching is already a pretty horny feeling. You can also use anal stretching with fingers or a dildo for further penetration.
The prostate is located in the anus. And the prostate is an erogenous zone in men. Sounds hot? It is! Massaging the prostate can cause sweating and loud moaning while stretching the rosette. If you want to target the prostate during anal stretching, our prostate vibrators are handy helpers. They stimulate the P-spot and support your anal orgasm. In this way, anal stretching becomes a very special way to fuck. And your counterpart (and his ass!) won’t forget you so quickly.
Stretch & penetrate – let’s fuck
When you feel that the sphincter is ready for more, you can carefully go in with your cock. For this to work smoothly, a slippery lubricant is an excellent aid. Of course, you shouldn’t forget the rubber during anal sex. If the rosette isn’t wide enough for what’s supposed to go in, don’t strain it, just keep stretching. Stretching the rosette sometimes just takes time and especially in the beginning there is more tension than relaxation. So it’s best to make the anal stretch as horny as possible, because then you won’t have any more thoughts about worries or fears.
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